Mad mom

[Aorli]

Is it just me or does any other mom out there just need a good cry right now. I'm so frustrated feeling like I'm doing everything on my own all the time and just need a destress break down. I always feel like I'm being a major b#### because I'm constantly yelling and frustrated

[pink83737]

It’s okay to cry, but don’t yell at the kids if they didn’t do anything wrong that could hurt there feelings..it’s all gonna get better I promise, give it some time & take some deeeeeep breaths

[Aorli in reply to pink83737]

I don't yell because I grew up in a very unstable home but I get very frusterated and lose my patience and get grumpy and I hate that:/

[pink83737 in reply to Aorli]

I know how you feel! It’s normal to feel that way but try deep breathing it usually helps!

[Aorli in reply to pink83737]

Thank you. I just hate how i feel like I'm being unstable because my daughter and husband are fine and here's me freaking out

[Aspergirl47]

Hey...I totally understand...I'm the same..Im the one in the house going mad...full on panic attacks and outbursts all the time...I'm beginning to think as females we put too much pressure on ourselves...that we should be doing it all and coping...but were also human beings who need a rest and have someone else take over...Ive been a carer for my Autistic son for years and my partner just spends a lot of time on the computer..so gets plenty of downtime..and any hobbies I had have long gone...I then find out I have Aspergers myself...diagnosed only 2 years ago...Do u have any hobbies u can distress with? The deep breathing is a good idea..i try to use YouTube videos on breathing for anxiety/stress...Hope this helps in some way...

[Aorli in reply to Aspergirl47]

Thank you. It's good knowing I'm not the only one who's stressing all the time. I shut myself in the bedroom and had a good cry did the deep breathing and drank some water it seemed to help. Usually I'm not so out of control but tonight it seemed to all just come crashing down on me. My husband works and pays the bills I do everything else. I usually read or watch a show. The only down time I get is when my daughter takes her nap. I think I need more me time out of the house.

[Aspergirl47 in reply to Aorli]

Youre definitely not alone That's what I needed was to go out of the house...difficult as I developed Agoraphobia...even a small walk of 10mins helps...That's great u managed to release all those emotions...a good cry works wonders... Try to have some space in the house for yourself..no matter how small and practise your deep breathing etc...Hopeful-Tinkerbell has some good advice..i agree with giving everyone chores to do...I never done this and my son is in his 20s and expects everything to be done...I wish I had taken that advice a long time ago...I ended up with chronic fatigue..Chat anytime ...Hugs x

[Aorli in reply to Aspergirl47]

Thank you much I did have another break down this morning but the rest of the day went very smooth

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

Just relax. Sometimes you do need some “me time” It’s important to just back off and de stress. So when faced with situations just put it to others. Kids can do chores. So can dad’s! Bubble baths with a lock on the door are okay! I think it’s important to communicate your feelings to your family nicely and age appropriately. Consider the outcome of something not getting done. Activities are a privilege not a right. Scheduling can be very helpful as well. Along with communication and assigning chores. Everyone lives there and should help out. Teach them young. Trust me! My son is 23 and still expects me to do a lot.

[Marshall64]

I'm not a mom but am a full time single dad (the mother of my daughter is not in the picture). I get overwhelmed all of the time. Right now my daughter is over a friend's house which is good because I really need a break. I have taken frustration out on my daughter and that sucks. I apologize after losing my temper but I still feel like craps afterwards. My daughter deserves better.

[Aorli in reply to Marshall64]

Yeah I don't think I could ever lose my my temper with her. I do get frustrated and lose my patience and get irritated and she can tell. Most of the time I can stay calm enough to handle her. She will be 2 in a few weeks so she can get really testy.

[Marshall64 in reply to Aorli]

Since you mentioned that she is about to turn two I was wondering if you have post postpartum depression (i shouldn't try playing psychiatrist) but I looked it up and it said it is normally the first few months). Either way, I'm sure that you are not alone in your feelings.

[Aorli in reply to Marshall64]

Yeah I deal with anxiety so it might be that too not sure. Thanks for reaching out

[Starrlight]

I need a good cry. I start to cry and then as soon as it starts it stops. I think it’s from the meds. But yeah I become really irritable sometimes and I try my hardest not to let it run off on my kiddos. Rough.

[Aorli]

I usually don't have an issue with it just when she's screaming at me

[Hidden]

Hi Aorli, how old are your children, being a parent is hard on your own, my little girl is 8 and it passes so quick, take care x

[Aorli in reply to Hidden]

She is 2 so I guess it's to be expected right haha. Looking to have our last child around when she's 3

[Hidden in reply to Aorli]

Yes it does get easier, once she starts school you will miss her so much. Take care you are NOT the only mum who feels like crying xx

[Aorli in reply to Hidden]

Oh I know I will. It doesn't happen too often that I get that overwhelmed. I've been dealing with anxiety a lot and I just want to enjoy life again and not think about stuff that doesn't matter and feel okay again.