Now what?????

[gmpare]

Who else has been emotionally hurt by their child SO bad that it's physically debilitating? No matter what I say or do to prove how sorry I am, she always knows how to hurt me to my core. Now she just gave me the official fuck off and shut me out of her and my 2 year old grandson's lives. I literally am crushed beyond repair

[Lostjoy]

So sorry. Young Adults can be so hard. I think they don’t understand until their kids become Adults and they are put in these situations. Doesn’t make it any easier on you. Wish I could help more.

[gmpare in reply to Lostjoy]

Thank you. It hurts SO incredibly much when your kid and grandson are your entire life and then BAM! You get cut off. I don't even want to get out of bed or shower. Going on two weeks now. Drugs aren't even a factor. Difficult is putting it mildly

[hypercat54 in reply to gmpare]

To be honest I would stop apologising and this would stop giving her the chance to have a go at you. Nothing else has worked so all you can do is look after your own feelings.

Oh by the way I hate swearing, would you mind amending out the f word please? Thank you. x

[gmpare in reply to hypercat54]

I'm apologize for the profanity. I tried abbreviations and I wasn't allowed to post without using what was really said to me. The only contact that I have with her is when she tears into me. It at the least me know that she still has a pulse

[hypercat54 in reply to gmpare]

Well obscenities can trigger people and they are not allowed on this site anyway. Abbreviating it to f.... is fine though. x

[Walkerbix in reply to hypercat54]

Geez

[Windy101]

I think when we give all of our worth and power to one person, it is too much and can become a weapon. My recommendation is that you get of bed, take a shower, clean your place, and make a list of ways in which you can put your life to good use. Surely there are other people who could use your energy, time, and caring if your daughter doesn't want it. Can you volunteer somewhere? Get a part-time job? Join a group at the library? Get involved with a church?

Your daughter is doing this because she knows she holds all the cards. As soon as you start building a life without her and stop making her the center of your world, she will stop. Don't call her, don't beg, don't go knocking on her door. Let her do her thing and meanwhile figure out how your life can have some meaning.

Even if you fake it.

You are still her mother and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. If she can't do that and is dropping f bombs your way, then she has some learning to do. You go ahead and keep living. You owe this to yourself and, as her mother, to her, so she'll know something about behaving like a decent human being. How is she going to treat your grandchild someday? How will that child treat her when grown? As her mother, I urge you to take charge of this situation and not let her send you to bed for two weeks. That's too much.

If you're not in counseling, I urge you to find someone who can teach you some coping skills on how to deal with your daughter, because she's going to come around and then it's just a matter of time before she does this again.

I wish you all the best and am sending warm thoughts your way. You can do this. You can.