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Ummm okaaaay!!!!!

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Janieliza
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Don't ppl think if it was that easy we'd have done it already?!?!?!?. Makes me soooo frustrated as I've had it said to me on more than one occasion. Hugs to you all.

Janie 💋 xxx

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Tiredinky

I know exactly how you feel. I told a long time friend that I was going through a bad time with depression. She was traveling a lot so we didn’t talk for a couple of months. When we did talk she was surprised I hadn’t gotten over it yet I wish it was like a cold and I could just get over it

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Janieliza in reply to Tiredinky

Isn't it frustrating. Thing is..im at the other side of anxiety and depression and my friend (i say the word loosely) actually said "so you finally snapped out of it then" you know like i had toothache and was moaning abit!!! Infuriating. I so hear you xx

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Cat_cat44

Ugh I couldn’t stand that! My aunt used to say that to me, or “just pray about it”; now her son has issues mentally so now she’s not so quick to say that anymore.

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Janieliza in reply to Cat_cat44

Do you know when the boots on the other foot...its not pleasant is it? I'm sorry her sons now not good but empathy is free...it costs nothing for human care, kindness and understanding, even if they don't 'get it' a simple "how you doin?" wouldn't go unnoticed...we don't have being pink spots or a tattoo advertising the fact we have anxiety and depression so ppl need to be more aware...alas it will never happen unless, as your auntie is now learning...it happens to them. Take care xx

I know the feeling! Dealing with anxiety is new for me, my family keeps telling me to "get over it" and that I "shouldn't feel this way." We can't help how we feel! I think since I was able to manage my stress and anxiety before and now I can't my family is just looking at me like why can't you deal with it now whats the difference.

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Anxiety and depression have no face....it can happen to anyone at anytime in their lives and the mere fact we are told to "snap out of it" infuriates me. I can't however get angry bcas it's simply sometimes the unknown and ppl don't like that do they? I won't say the word uneducated(ooops!!) bcas sometimes ppl do know about it but they don't know our journey and daily pain nor do they want to know as often having blinkers on works for them. It's life as we know it lovely I'm afraid. Hugs x

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fauxartist

yep!...'just get off the pity pot'...'get over it'...'just move on already'...'just buck up'...'straighten up your back'...'show some back bone'...'other people probably had it worse than you did'...the list is endless...I've heard it all....

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Janieliza in reply to fauxartist

And then some....yes indeed there's many more isn't there?

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tashalyn

So I had been struggling with depression and anxiety for 8 years: thankfully there have been periods where it would go into total remission. Through out all those years I have heard the “snap out of it” and am like I wouldn’t love anything more!!! It’s hurtful specially when you are trying to put on a strong front and just one day you may vent it out and you hear stuff like “pick yourself up” “why are you acting like a child” or “what do you have to be depressed about?” ...so lately I only share how I feel with family members who understand and with my psychiatrist. People have no sympathy let alone empathy. Screw them

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