I saw my therapist for the first time in months today. She has known and been working with me off and on for 4 years. For the first time I sat there and cried, which is super hard for me. I tend not cry or if I do I lock myself in a room to be alone. I was always and in some ways still am afraid to show weakness. But after finally trusting this woman who's known me years to bear witness to me tears I think I might be able to give myself permission to cry and embrace the feelings I try to repress. I think it has also helped me to respond to several of you encouraging you to own your tears. It finally hit me that I'm being kinder to others than to myself. So maybe the best we can do when things are really hard is try to be kind to ourselves and embrace the tears if they come.