Hi
I’m Tibby. I’m struggling with depression and anxiety and obsessive thoughts that have no meaning....unless I’m depressed. These are the thoughts that make seemingly normal people do wacky things. Anyway, I needed a place to talk. My closest friend passed away in August and I’m trying to find that friendship again. Without her depression feels even worse if that’s possible. I came here for support and I hope I can be a support to others.
How awful to loose your best friend, I think I may know how you may feel, one of my Best friends who was a good person, was murdered. That was before I came down with the anxiety/depression. Nothing seems to make sense now, life seems unreal, I hurt and am at question with life. People tell me constantly they pray for me, I say when is it going to work? I understand your depression seeming worse you are grieving , I am sure your local library would have books on Loss and Grief, that may be a help for you. Can you talk to your Dr. a therapist, get in group for grief and loss, go on line you should find some help there.
I wish I could put my arms around you, pretend I am hugging you. I am also sending you love, comfort and peace. Sprinkle 1
Thank you. That means so much. I’m sorry about your loss. The loss of your friend didn’t trigger the depression though? That came later?
Hello thank you for responding, the shock of my friend "Larry" being murdered put me in shock, and I tried to deal with it, but it still makes me mad and sad.
The thing with the depression/anxiety is from building a tolerance to the med's I was on and now we are trying to find one that will work, and it is causing me all this hell. I know it will end but I wish it would hurry up.
You take good care of yourself, I know they are group for Loss & Grief, I held one at a church many years ago. Churches are a good place to check, and your Dr, may know of one. Or like I say look on line. You need all the help you can get. And as I said look in your library there are some good books on the subject. I wish you well, and send you a Big Hug, Love and Peace, live for today do not look back. Another Big Hug. Sprinkle 1
I'm so sorry, Sprinkle. What a terrible thing that should have never happened. It makes no sense. Of course you are questioning everything. You are strong and brave, and carrying on as your friend would want despite the senselessness of it all. You have a triple whammy - the loss of your friend, the hurt of the way she died, and I'm sure strong feelings about whoever did it. I used to work as a victim advocate for survivors of homicide victims, so if you'd like to message me, I'm happy to help. Meanwhile, I'm sending you a hug.
I can't imagine the pain to lose someone, but I know it's a hard struggle and I respect that. I know what it feels to have a lot of thoughts in mind, crazy thoughts. I hope you find in this place the support you need.
I'm sorry about your friend. That is a huge loss. It's going to take time to grieve her. If you're not in counseling already, I urge you to go, and to also consider a grief support group. This is the time to gather support from people who have been through it.
My dad died a year ago and though every loss is different, that pain is with me still. I don't know if grief every goes away, but I think it becomes bearable and can transform itself into something positive. I'm still working on that one.
You deserve a lot of credit for posting here and reaching out. I'm so glad that you did. Are you getting treatment of any kind?
I am very sure you can help others here. We're all in the same boat, dealing with something. I have depression and anxiety that rears its ugly head now and then. It's mostly under control with medication, thankfully.
Every unique person who comes along has something to give, because they understand and don't judge. This is a safe place with good people.
Thanks for being here and posting Tibby. I struggle with them same stuff.
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