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I’ve been away from here for a week or so, I have tried to stay away from all social media and tech as much as I can! as the fog has fallen upon me ( my name for my ‘depression’ which I hate as I still refuse to accept the diagnosis.) it’s not been to hard to avoid it all. I have no interest in anything going on. Even my work which usually keeps me occupied and I can see through the fog, isn’t helping.

I am on medication and it’s up for review next week. But it’s only been a couple of weeks and the side affects have been awful. My sleep is down to a few broken hours. And im also doing the other things much more regularly, almost daily. My husband doesn’t get it, he doesn’t agree with medication, and I think my children have noticed I’m not myself.

I’m not where to go or what to do.

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My husband doesn’t understand me taking medication either. He is an alcoholic though. He says that is his medicine in a joking tone. I’m not sure how old your children are but it may be good to just sit them down and explain it in age and maturity appropriate ways. You said they know something isn’t right. They may be very worried. You are their solid rock. Security. It’s important not to let them stress and not know the truth. They could actually think it is worse. I suggest marriage counseling for you and your spouse. It’s important he understand what’s going on. Maybe he could join the caregivers support group. You may not want to go into detail with your children only you can decide what they can handle. They deserve to be told something. They may think it’s worse than what it is. Let them know it’s okay. Validate their feelings. If dad is negative about it don’t include him. Maybe you can take them for ice cream or something so they can associate a positive experience with it. My son had so many ideas about what was wrong with mommy. I was scared to tell him. He suffered more as a result. Knowing some of the things he was thinking broke my heart and were way worse than the truth. If you’re honest with them they will be honest with you. Establish those open lines of communication any way you can. Let them ask questions. Be honest. Tell them what they are able to hear at their age and maturity. Your husband and you need to talk also. Let him know he can’t fix it. Let him know your expectations. When I would vent my husband thought I was giving him a problem to fix but that wasn’t the case. I just needed him to listen, a shoulder to lean on. Now we don’t talk at all. He isn’t even coming home tonight. Explain that if your heart was bad the doctor would give you medicine. It’s the same with your brain or mind. Try to communicate. Don’t end up like me! Alone! Best of luck. Maybe your husband can go and your doctor or therapist can help you explain the meds and necessity of them.

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