I've been battling with depression for a long time. Recently I've had some terrible loss and some healing recoveries. Right now I'm struggling. I have had the opportunity to heal some of my worst pains from my childhood this summer and it was beyond words fantastic, but I just spent the most amount of time with my older sister than I have in around 25 years. I'm almost 39 and she's 45.
I guess I naively thought I was going to continue the feel good healing train. She still treats me like a 14 year old who knows nothing and I guess I still hold her on the older sister pedestal. (I'm not bragging or putting her down with my following details I'm just setting the stage: I'm a successful doctor of Physical Therapy, married with a family and financially stable. She is struggling with money, drugs, alcohol, mental health.)
I thought these 2 weeks together would be good to get to know my estranged sister but it was like dealing with a know it all teenager. I would only offer ideas for help when asked but then would be told she already knew that or that she's got a better plan.
I know I need to move on and recognize she is an individual and so am I, but I don't know how. I'm scared as I don't want to alienate her. But I don't want this weird drama. I'm moving forward in my life and don't want her treatment of me and my family to suck me back into the bad place I've fought so damn hard to get out of.
Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.