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1 month update


I'm 3 weeks into my last year of high school and things have gotten... stressful. I wish I could say things have gotten better, but they haven't really. Well actually, my home life is actually ok, better than ever, so that's fine. My sister just came back on her business trip to China and Japan and got me some cool snacks.

But anyway, school.

I have this 'ex friend' who has been really annoying me lately.

It's a long story, so if you want to skip it just go onto the next paragraph:

So basically, my 'ex friend' is pretty much an attention seeker, she takes it to the next level, and fakes mental illness. I know it sound horrible to say, but it is true, she copies my friend who has panic attacks and me ( my depression). For example, she used to eat fine before, but as soon as I mention that I had been struggling to eat to the friendship group, who were then persuading me to eat, all of a sudden she stopped eating. And during lunch she'd get her food and announce ' I can't eat this, who wants this?' Really obviously. She also seemed to plan some kind of 'panic attack' last week, because she asked my friend when another girl ( who helps her and gives her attention) would be in the next class, which was PE, she was fine in the changing room, but as soon as that friend was near her, she had one. Then a teacher went to her aid instantly and she got sent home. Bear in mind that, that said teacher was suppose to speak to me , but never did. And also when my friend had multiple panic attacks through out the day, begging to go home, the school didn't let her. I felt like I didn't even matter that day, and that no one cared, and I cried. I don't know why she's doing this, she used to be my best friend, but it feels like ever since I told her about my depression, she started this. Apparently she's always been playing victim and attention seeking, but never this bad, but I can't stop thinking it's my fault, or that she purposely doesn't want me to get any attention (like help, which I've been wanting for ages, but now I'm starting to lose hope). She knows it's hurting me and my friend, but she continues anyway, and when she's not pretending she's sucking up to people, and pretends nothings happened, she's got support all ready for her anyway, but apparently it does nothing.I'm thinking of moving groups for a few days, because I can't take this anymore, but that would mean moving away from my friend. And we need each other. I don't know what to do, I can't just tell a teacher all this, they wouldn't believe me, it's a horrible thing to accuse someone of, but I just don't know.

If you couldn't be bothered to read all that basically, I have an 'ex friend' who is faking mental illness for attention most likely. It's upsetting me and my friend and I don't know what to do.

Sorry this was long.

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Well I would get away from that friend, you need to put yourself first and not let someone like that be in your life and affect you.


Maybe you and your other friend could talk about it and spend some time by yourselves or with another group for a while. Keep in mind that she may not actually be faking mental illness but perhaps these attention seeking behaviors are symptoms of another kind of mental illness other than anxiety or depression. It's good to hear that you home life is doing well! I hope that a little vacation for the source of your discomfort helps. You and your happiness matter and I hope you're able to get the help you deserve.

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