When will this get better

[erica2017]

I have been almost two month with not being able to drive with out anxiety. I just dont know if and when it will get better its taking a tow on me . Its hard not being able to do something you once could do . People dont understand they think you can just get over it . And theres a lot of judgement behind it .

[Sweetcathy29]

Hi, I had anxiety before but councellors helped me.

My sessions with them involved some questions which i will list to you. You dont have to answer these following questions to me, just answer them to yourself. (Or anyone you feel comfortable talking to)

What triggers anxiety for you? What is it that you fear? What is the worse that can happen? Is there something you think you could have done to avoid it or stop it? Has the thing that you are afraid of happened to you before? If yes, What are the chances it will happen again? What was last time you felt anxious and if asked to score it on 1 to 10, how much would you score it? What can you do when you feel like something bad is about to happen? Does it bother you what people will say or think? Does it affect your work? What can you do about it? And so on.

Know that It is alright to be a bit anxious which makes you work better but over anxious affects your work and reduces your effectiveness.

Apart from all that, you can try using breathing excercises, meditation or anything that helps calm you down like listening to music, gardening, going on walk...

In case you need someone to speak to feel free to reachout. There should also be other councellors who can help you overcome your anxiety. Anxiety can be overcome when you can talk to someone about it.

Hope you feel well soon.

[erica2017 in reply to Sweetcathy29]

Thank u i do go to therapy but not as offten as i need because of copayments . And thanks i will try this . I think i tend to think about it to mu h abd it gets me work up like just now driving from work my heart was jumping had to pull over alot and i need to get my tires check tonight but to scared to drive to the place . I so ready for this to go away its just to much sometimes and seems like its never going to end even with my meds i still have the anxiety its not as bad but still not that great . Thanks please keep in touch i appreciate you advice.

[Sweetcathy29 in reply to erica2017]

I will be here. If you ever feel need then you can always reach out. I had anxiety and when i do get it, it makes me sick to my stomach. It takes time but what i learned from my councellors helped me a lot to bring my anxiety down almost eveytime. I tried never to rely on meds so those things i learned is all i have to help me through.

Hope that what i learned can help you too. You will get better but you cannot rush it.

[erica2017 in reply to Sweetcathy29]

Thanks you so much i am on meds . I know the problem with rushing the family that hrlps me keep telling me i need to get better because they help me when im an able to drive and i guess there tired of helpi g me . Thanks for the support

[levymaria]

I also struggle to drive... when I did sometimes I would make myself panic by thinking I was going to have an accident or a heart attack. I try to clear my head and take a few deep breaths play some music and hope for the best... it's true no one truly understands my anxiety either.

[erica2017 in reply to levymaria]

Yes thanks i try to sometimes it works sometimes it dont . Some people think i should be able to just get back into driving lile i did before and i try to explain its not that easy . I have been trying hard to get back comfortable with driving. Juat like now i need tp get my tires check and i to nervous to go do it .

[levymaria in reply to erica2017]

Nobody in my family understands, because what I'm dealing with can be physically seen like an injury they take it lightly. It's hard to try and get people to understand depression and anxiety if they haven't suffered from it on this level.

[erica2017 in reply to levymaria]

Yes mines the same they say the understand bit they dont . And then they get inpatient with me .

[erica2017 in reply to levymaria]

Are u back driving without anxiety yet

[levymaria in reply to erica2017]

I am driving I still get anxiety sometimes, I haven't been able to drive far either.

[erica2017 in reply to levymaria]

I praying that it gets better for you because i understand how bad it can make life for us.