Counselling

[scarsbeneathyourbeautiful]

So my last post was about enquiring about counselling, which was a massive step for me. The counsellor has got back in touch with me but I haven't found the courage to set a date to meet her yet. I'm over thinking it all over again and questioning if I'm doing the right thing. I know deep down I need this but I am so scared. Has anyone had counselling to try and better themselves? I have changed as a person due to a toxic relationship over the past few years, my anger is out of control, I'm anxious, jealous and find myself hating things for no reason. I do not trust anyone and constantly feel on edge. This isn't me at all and I need help to get the old me back. I just wondered if anyone has experience this?

[Angelgirl510]

i tried counseling for the first time this past year, and it truly made the difference. It can take some time though to find the right counselor you're truly comfortable with so be patient. But it will truly pay off once you start seeing them on a constant basis. They help to work through your thoughts and discover strategies to help you cope. For me, it would change the entire course of the day just talking to a third party so you didnt feel so stuck inside your mind with your thoughts. Anxiety also makes me feel very on edge and I assure you it will make all the difference. Good luck! Wishing you the best.

[scarsbeneathyourbeautiful in reply to Angelgirl510]

I've had it a few years back for bereavement, but this is purely to fix myself and try and find my old self again. I didn't want it to come to this but I can't live like this anymore. I think it's my only option and deep down I know it's the only option. Thank you for your advice; good luck to you too!

[Hidden]

Hi try it as you have nothing to lose do you? It helped me a lot and I believe is always the way to go.

It can be painful and full of emotion though as you are dealing with feelings you blocked out for obvious reasons. But if you don't deal with them then they will keep popping up and destroy your happiness and peace of mind. Believe me I know.

Let us know how you get on after your first session. Now on that phone and book it please. xx

[scarsbeneathyourbeautiful in reply to Hidden]

Very true. I'm starting to believe myself more and more when I say it's what I need. It's going to be hard and it's going to be scary (especially because I'm not telling my family I'm going)... But I need to do this for myself, and my partner. Thank you very much for your reply and your support Xx

[Hidden in reply to scarsbeneathyourbeautiful]

You are very welcome. I never told any of my family I was going either, xx

[scarsbeneathyourbeautiful in reply to Hidden]

Hi, I've been to my first session today. It went well.. I cried, talked, laughed.. Although I feel very vulnerable and open right now, I'm glad I went. My counsellor seems lovely and I'm glad I've done it. She's set me a task for next week so we will see how that goes.

[Hidden in reply to scarsbeneathyourbeautiful]

That's great well done. x