Hi there! I am new here but probably should have joined much sooner! My husband has GAD, and I guess what I'm wondering is whether there's anything else I can do. I feel I have to be a take-charge, controlling b**** (no offense) to get our two person family to do anything, even the mundane, during these relapses. I hate it, because it's not my personality (I don't like forcing other people do stuff, though I am willing to kick my own rear plenty), and I also am not very good at that role.
Background: About a year into my marriage, my husband had panic symptoms (first time in the three years I had known him, at that point) and was diagnosed with GAD. It's now five years and two specialists later, and here we are still dealing with relapses.
I haven't had luck finding support groups I'd feel comfortable attending, I leave it at my husband's and his specialists' discretion how much to involve me with his treatment plan, and I know not to support his reassurance-seeking behaviors. I also see much generalized advice about how spouses or family members need to remember general self-care, which I already do my best with. There also is a lot of great info about how important it is that the anxiety sufferer gets support. I also recently read the book, Loving Someone with Anxiety, which would have been awesome to have five years ago but now is old news, thanks to experience. I get little support from my family, which isn't especially accepting of his condition (the "man-up" generation...), so I just don't bring it up with them. Friends are sympathetic but don't understand. I've tried going to a mental health professional but had to discontinue due to a move. During that time, though, I felt awkward and dumb--I'm not very good at talking about my life. Writing comes much more naturally.
Thanks in advance for any advice! (And sorry for the long rant!)