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Hi,

I was having suicidal thoughts and thoughts of wanting to cut again. I choose to talk about it instead of acting on it. My counselor told my dad and my dad grounded me. I don't think I need to be grounded because I didn't act on it. My old counselor would have told me first that she was going to tell on me but my new counselor didn't. I wish I could feel like I have a say in my treatment, but right now I don't because I am 16. They switched me counselor even when I had just found the perfect one. The only thing I have learned so far is not to tell anyone what I am thinking because even if I talk about it I am still going to get into trouble.

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You did the right thing by talking about it, I promise. Please don't shut everyone out due to some people's lack of knowledge on the subject. Your counselor is a mandated reporter & has to tell when a patient is thinking about self harm or suicide - but that doesn't mean you shouldn't speak up when you feel that way. I don't agree with grounding someone for feelings that are beyond their control, but I'm sure your dad is terrified for you & sick at the thought of losing you like that - sometimes even us grown ups react out of fear & make the wrong decisions. We are all imperfect people just doing our best. I'm not taking sides in any way, just hopefully helping you see it from another perspective. You are so damn strong for not giving in to those thoughts, sweetie. So incredibly strong & I for one am proud of you because of that strength you've shown. Keep that up & don't ever forget what a bad ass you are! This depression & anxiety mess tells us we are weak, stupid, unworthy. Those are all lies this illness wants you to believe. I mean, how much strength did it take to say "no, I won't hurt myself today"?! It took immense strength & I totally see that, even if some people don't or can't see it. I believe in you 100 percent. Let me know if you need to talk, I'm here.

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sklema

My 15 yr.old went through spells of this mainly due to her meds.making her worse.I don't believe grounding is the way to go,as I told her.it's not that your doing a "bad" thing like staying past curfew, or not cleaning your room. I was afraid of punishment would just make her close up and feel as though she couldn't come to me. Her coulee actually gave her a tume limit for her to tell me or he would.So I'm not sure how to give advice just knw though that being on the other end as a parent it is very hard to grasp,it is scary and maybe your dad feels as I did lie I failed her somehow and sometimes when parents are scared we get angry about it. Wishing you best of luck,just keep talkng to him.

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