fear of lossing someone

hi

I have anxiety disorder and having troubles with dealing with it all. new job, moving horses, starting somewhere fresh with my horses, losses my best friend, and trainner

feel like everyone that I love is leaving me.

[giulianaD]

You have to find that survivor in you. .be grateful every morning. wake for a purpose . I say this but I know it is hard. No one is leaving you. Its just a transition in life. Things keep moving forward. As you should do for you and your animals. I lean on mine as well for comfort. Animals are amazing..

[Hidden in reply to giulianaD]

animals are amazing things they help in so many ways. ive just been finding it hard to get out to see my horses. As my anxious starts from when i get into the car and start driving.

and the whole breathing exercises doesnt work as I losscomplete fouces and i switch to Ive gotta get home where I feel safe the most.

but I would like to change that too feel safe with my horses as well. and feel less anxious about getting there and more exciting anout seeing them.

I know easy said then done.

[giulianaD in reply to Hidden]

yes i agree. i had this as well. didnt want to leave home. i still get social anxiety heavily. in stores etc.

you have to start at home relaxing. exercising. take the sleep remedy to raise seratonine. Tranquil Sleep. 3 tabs at bed. helps me amd my teen keep our spirits up. even if we dont need sleep remedy. take this....

[Hidden in reply to giulianaD]

I find I can sleep no problem at night time, and I woke up of an mornings and are able to get up. and get moving and and get ready for the day that ive planned, but as soon as i get into the car and start driving thats the worse of it.

[giulianaD in reply to Hidden]

ugh yes i am there. you have to do it. take the supplement if u can..it will help your serotonine

[Hidden in reply to giulianaD]

can you explain to me what the supplement is and how it works ?

and do you get it from a chemist or can u get it in the supermarkets

[giulianaD in reply to Hidden]

It is a supplement..promotes sleep and a raise in serotonine .

look it up online. you can get it in chewables and soft gels. It is a Natural factors brand. 5htp,l theanine, and melatonin.

[Hidden in reply to giulianaD]

I love my horses, they help me so much, its hard not seeing them, i miss them like crazy. hopeful i can see them today.

[Meggspeggs in reply to giulianaD]

Giulianad is it safe to take with antidepressants?

[Hidden in reply to Meggspeggs]

thankyou

[giulianaD in reply to Meggspeggs]

yes this is only a supplement. its what out body naturally produces and lack in those of us with these issues. please tell your dr about it as i can only give you my opinion.

i hope you are safe and well.G

[Hidden in reply to giulianaD]

my dr is aware of what is going on, im on medication, for my anxiety. will look into it more.

thankyou

[giulianaD in reply to Hidden]

yes of course. take care of yourself. . be well.

[tricemarie]

moving is never easy I know, I have been moving around for the past 9 years it's depressing especially not knowing anyone or having family around. I hope things get better for you.

[Hidden in reply to tricemarie]

I even finding it hard to leave the house even to just go for a walk down the road, or even to the park.

[tricemarie in reply to Hidden]

I totally understand, I am the same way it's hard for me to get out but I have to, I have to young girls who wake me up every morning wanting breakfast and one is in school so I have to take her and pick her up . my kids know I am sad they tell me they love me and not to be sad but it's hard.

[Hidden in reply to tricemarie]

I can get up eveyday and get myself ready and have breakfast, its just that next step getting out of the house without having the fear of somethings happening or going wrong.

everyone tells me it will get easier but some days I cant see it, but other days I can. just struggling a lot.

[tricemarie in reply to Hidden]

OMG! I have the same fears. I am scared to let my 6 year old go to school and have not let anyone watch my children I lost a daughter in 2011, I was visiting my mother and my 6 year old was 1month at the time and I had a almost 2year old my sister ran over my almost 2 year old in my mother's driveway and she died! that's why it's hard for me to let anyone watch my kids I fear losing them everyday it's so hard.

[Hidden in reply to tricemarie]

that would be hard, how did you get passed it, to be able to continue the day to day life

[tricemarie in reply to Hidden]

I wish I could tell you how but I am still going through hell and it hasn't gotten easier either it never will. I can honestly say I will be unhappy and hurt for the rest of my miserable life😢

[Hidden in reply to tricemarie]

thats sad, I'm really sorry that you feel that way. you have helpped me in a good away.

people say as tbe times go on it get easier but sometimes I feel like that isnt going to happen.

or I get told just give it time it will over time

[tricemarie in reply to Hidden]

the people that say it will get easier or take it one day at a time are the ones that aren't going through anything compared to you or lie because they don't know what to say to comfort you. I have been disappointed all my life by people and I don't rely on Thier words for comfort. I like honest people that ain't afraid to give it to me straight haven't found anyone like that yet.

[gogogirl in reply to tricemarie]

I know what you mean. I love it when someone says, It's okay or my favorite." I never knew you had a problem."

[gogogirl in reply to tricemarie]

I can't say it will get better because I do not know your situation, but from what you said it is amazing that you somehow are coping. I hope that you can find some peace , and know that people are thinking about you.

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

thankyou, its just hard as the things i love doing, like going out and seeing my horses, Im struggling to get there.

[mysmugcat in reply to tricemarie]

So sorry to hear that thinking of you.

[Hidden in reply to mysmugcat]

thank you, just wish I could go and see my horses, but Im struggling to drive out to them

[gogogirl]

That's great you have a job and horses. Awesome.

[Hidden in reply to gogogirl]

it is awesome and would be even better, if I could get out and see them.

[Caldreamer]

You will meet new people but I understandhow anxious you feel putting yourself out there, trusting others, and asking for help. Did your previous trainer have any recommendations for your new location? Good luck and know that people will find you. 😊