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I have anxiety and depression and am afraid to leave the house by myself. I don't have many friends because I don't go out and meet people. I feel so alone and hopeless. I think of suicide often. I wish I had a support group nearby to go to so I could actually meet people who understand what I'm feeling😥

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Hi Puppies i too have anxiety and severe depression I keep my friends circle very small as I find people don't understand what you're going through unless they are going through it or at least experienced it. Even some of my family don't get me I see them rolling there eyes at me as if they are fed up of me the way I am well so am I it's not like we want to have this also the only person I could turn too was my mum but unfortunately I lost her to cancer almost 10 years ago so I know what it's like I would love a group to go to it would help us all so much in our situation here if you need a chat xxx

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Puppies in reply to Natsteveo

Thank you so much for replying to my e-mail! I didn't think anyone would. I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. It must have been really hard for you. I just recently lost a friend the day after New Year's Day. It's the first time I lost someone I felt I could talk to. This set off my depression, anxiety and panic attack. I feel like I'm in a dark hole all alone especially because I don't have any close friends. That's why I so appreciate you e-mailing back. Thank you and thank you for your support 🐶

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Natsteveo in reply to Natsteveo

Aww babes you are not alone i know u may feel you are at the moment but we have all been where you are now and all experienced what your going through now in some way so dont feel alone talk to us always here if you want to talk xx

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mjlitl13

Hi Puppies,

I too have suffered with first severe anxiety and later depression.

I see a therapist and have a Psychiatrist for my meds.

Currently, I take Klonopin and Buspar for my anxiety and Zoloft for my depression.

I need to either get a new med for my depression or add something to the Zoloft, because as my Dr said, Zoloft alone sometimes "poops out".

The thing that helped me the most was going to a free Support Group. The kind I went to was a 12 Step group for Adult Children Of Alcoholics (ACOA).

Unfortunatelly, all of these groups closest to me are now closed.

But, online I found another type of group close to me, Emotional Recovery.

I found it thru meetup.com. You could try that site or look for Self Help groups in your area or in your State.

The groups helped me more than therapy with getting me out of my shell.

Good luck and come back here again,

MJ

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Puppies in reply to mjlitl13

Thank you for your reply! As I replied to Natzsteveo, I was not sure if I would be getting any responses.

I take Lamictal, Effexor and Lamotrinin. I've tried so many meds I don't even know if its helping. I'm not good with computers, but I thought I would try this online support group just to see what would happen and I'm so glad I did. I will try if there's any kind of support group out here, but the hard part would be leaving the house because I get scared of going out and meeting people. I feel like I'm not good enough or worthy to be spoken to. It's just so frustrating having to live with these debilitating feelings.

Thank you again for replying and for your support.🐶

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mjlitl13 in reply to Puppies

Puppies, I used to feel the same way as you before my first group session.

Since I don't like to drive too far from home and have a hard time driving at night, my boyfriend drove me to my very first ACOA meeting.

After that meeting, I felt comfortable enough to drive myself! And it was at night too!

I really hope you get to experience that freeing feeling!

Just remember, I was painfully shy for most of my life and now, even though I have trouble driving far, I am no longer afraid to be around people and am surprisingly comfortable in groups!

Good Luck,

MJ

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Puppies in reply to mjlitl13

That is great to hear! I don't know why I'm afraid to step out of the house. If im with someone I'm ok, but to just step out the door even for a walk is hard for me. I don't drive much myself because I'm afraid and I am really shy myself and always feel inferior compared to others. I think if I were in a group regularly, I would be able to open up and hopefully make a friend. Can't seem to find one close to me. I am very happy to hear that you concurred your fear and I hope one day I will be able to too! Thank you for your text🐶

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mjlitl13 in reply to Puppies

I totally understand the problem with getting out the door. Lately, I have been having trouble with that too, plus I too don't have many friends that live near me.

Winter always makes me more depressed, but when I DO get out, I feel better.

Talk again soon,

MJ

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Puppies in reply to mjlitl13

The winter makes me feel more depressed and I think it's because of the cold, rainy, gloomy weather . I agree that once I get myself out of the house I feel better. I wonder if those special lamps that mimics the sunlight really works?

Take care🐶

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mjlitl13 in reply to Puppies

Puppies,

I DID buy one of those lamps but it was too big and wasn't very stable so I didn't use it much.

Then, my family Dr loaned me one but, for some reason, I haven't used it. It's just sitting in a closet.

I remember that I DID get a headache when I used the first one, but maybe that's because my Psychiatrist told me to use it for an hour each day.

My family Dr told me to try using it for 30 mins.

I guess I should get it out of the closet and give it a try.

However, I know my dislike of Winter isn't just due to the lack of sunlight. I also hate the cold weather. Even in the house, I need it to be pretty warm. Cold makes me feel more anxious.

I will let you know how I do with the light.

MJ

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Puppies in reply to mjlitl13

Looking forward to hear back from you🐶

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Ddorne

You are not alone here. Do you take meds? Do you have a therapist ? You have to work on getting out of the house. I know it's hard. This is a great group, people really reply and give answers. If you are having suicidal thoughts you should go to the ER and talk to someone.Dont let that go unchecked. You need to know your fear of going out can be treated. I read of many,many people who have that problem.You have to find a therapist on line or phone to help you work it out. God bless you. We are here for you.

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Puppies in reply to Ddorne

Thank you for replying and those supportive suggestions. I do take meds and I used to see a therapist, but stopped after feeling I wasn't making any progress. A friend just recently passed so the feeling of being alone and suicidal thoughts came flooding over me. I know isolating oneself is the worst thing to do, but I don't have any friends I can confide in. I am greatful that I stumbled upon this website and met people who understand and are going through the same things I am. I am not as alone as I thought I was. Thank you very much 🐶

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Dogs123

It's a terrible feeling. With work you will get better. There are so many people rooting for you! Me, for one!

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Puppies in reply to Dogs123

Thank you so much for replying and for your support! I am really greatful that I found this website and was able to meet people like you who understand what I'm going through. I'm glad I made a new friend. Thank you so much!! 🐶

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