The history - all you need to know really.
My daughter has always been a 'big' girl from birth due to kidney problems and was treated for this. However her weight has never lifted, sometimes due to eating. She was bullied for years for her weight (not trendy you see) in schools and reported/recorded all the way through. Secondary was better because she separated from the main cohort. At 16 she joined the college gym and trimmed up a little. She looked stunning - like never before. Supervision all the way on this one. She had a boyfriend for 3 years.
This year they, mutually have split up, she's off to Uni next summer. Both OK with it. But since the summer she has continued to lose weight. Having to order new clothes for her we have found out she has gone from a size 14 to baggy 6! Looks dreadful.
I have been extremely puzzled and have had suspicions about a member of the family being ill in the bathroom over the last 8 months or so. You know - little oddities when cleaning. All family says not them when asked.
I have been off sick for 3 months and seemed to have got under her skin being around all the time - physically immobile. ??
She is sensible, bubbly, confident, we have talked about it, we continue to discuss her weight, no upsets there, I see her eat, she has no issues, she walks to college and appointments, has always walked rather than bus, a great social circle, an 'A' student, she enjoys cooking her own meals when I can't do dinner - very healthy and large potions, loves to bake and gift out to her friends. Having kept my eye on her it was the last statement that made be bolt.
Baking and Anorexia! A blog on this site. (although I'm thinking Bulimia)
She was told in college yesterday that rumours are she is Bulimic. Her ex defended her and said not. She is distraught as she says not. Yesterday her ex sends her texts blasting her for looking ridiculous, called her names, swore, asked what she was trying to achieve. !!?!? She is 18 soon and had booked a meal out with friends last night. I had to 'recover' her.
So - I have just had a discussion telling her the next sensible stage will have to be a GP visit for blood tests, because despite her eating - she is not putting on weight and there could be something seriously wrong with her.
I work with teenagers and if I notice a dramatic change in them I talk to them, refer for counselling, advise, etc... or with consent speak to their parents. We have a system in place. College have not contacted me.
I have other major issues in my life that I am dealing with, but this one by far is the most important.
My question is - are there any other steps me and my husband should be taking?
How can I help her? I am really worried now.
Thanks and bless you for taking the time to read.
(I have also just emailed this to the 'Anorexia and Bulimia Care' site.)