Tough Love

[lori716]

Hope You Are All At Peace This Beautiful July 1st!!!

My 25 year old nephew has just entered an Eating Disorder Clinic for the fourth time in five years. (several more over his life time). He has had an eating disorder history for as long as family members can recall and his father is beside himself; emotionally and financially. Once released from each program he has yet to attend a support group, hold a job, maintain contracts set up his counselor and his father, etc. Yet, he has time for social life, travel, and wants card blanc to come and go as he pleases. He has also a history of lying, misperceptions and reality so addressing his real issues never truly seem to be addressed. Family counseling has been attempted several times but without success.

At what point can a family turn their cheek and ask him to leave the house without fear of him taking his life through this disease. I know "tough love" sounds terrible, but we are desperate to save this wonderful young man!!!

We are torn apart. Has anyone ever had such a situation?

Bless You All,

[crazycrossstitcher]

What a situation to find your self in - I am a sufferer and can stand outside myself and see the destruction I caused within my family - so I do feel for you. Have you contacted ABC - they have a wonderful support line for carers and family such as yourself. I do so pray that your nephew will be open to receive the help on offer - and you will be in my prayers.

[lori716 in reply to crazycrossstitcher]

Thank You For Your Response. I will keep you in prayers as well.

[TPepper]

You can only help someone as much as they allow you. It sucks that he has an ED but I don't know, is it really an excuse? I have an ED and I never let it be an excuse. I never say I cannot do something because of my ED. I suffer from headaches and muscle pains and I attend every lecture and try my hardest with work. It depends on the person. Though a lot of the people I know who have mental illnesses are considerate of other people at least to some degree. They recognise that their actions are detrimental to relationships and try at least, not to let it be. It sounds that tough luck may be the way. Good luck!