advice please?!

I saw my doctor on Monday and after all the commotion last week (her saying I'll probably have to be admitted) she just wasn't concerned anymore. I'd lost another 2kg in 2 weeks and I told her how ill I've been feeling - but she just sent me away again. I'm so frustrated and really scared. my bmi is now under 13, I can't sleep because I'm too scared I'll have a heart attack or something and die, yet I'm still determined I won't eat more than 500 calories a day. I'm so scared and to be honest I just want help, I almost want to go to hospital but nobody is even bothered anymore? what should I do?

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  • Hi Heliza11, this is what happens with chronic conditions. After a while doctors stop trying so hard. They can only suggest help so many times and then they just sustain you like they are doing for my daughter. You see Heliza, you want help, you almost want to go to the hospital but you are determined not to eat more than 500 calories a day. I know you are scared and so are the doctors. But their hands are tied unless you are willing to follow their orders. I truly hope you get the help you need. Do it for yourself. xx

  • Thanks for your reply, I'm just confused because she keeps saying to my mum I could go to hospital, but with me she acts like everything is fine and has never even said anything about it to me. I wanted to say about to her on Monday, but I just didn't know what to say! I want to do what they think is best, but I don't know what that is at the moment.

  • Dunno kiddo. Same boat as you. Ive just been really ill or 6 days and lost 10lbs in that time and my bmi is lower than yours. Really no dissrepect whatsoever but when faced medically we tend to lie and say that we are fine. .obviously you need and want the help. Personally for me i would not come on here and post that the way you did for attention. It does come across as because your doc wasnt concerned ( docs are crap ) just dont make yourself any worse . Get some fight in your belly and be noticed for you being you what height and weight are you ? If you dont mind me asking

  • I'm 5'9, and just under 40kg now. Also this isn't for attention haha! I just needed some advice :)

  • I didnt mean that how it may have come across and certainly didnt mean to come across as nasty. Its hard to get the help you need is all

  • yes, it definitely it is. I hope you're doing okay :) x

  • I'll live lol. I just hope that you manage to get help sooner rather than later and dont have to keep banging your head against a brick wall to get help (does get a litte painful and big bump too!) Im now 42 and weigh 4 stone 10lbs and everyday i feel its going to be my last. Please dont waste your life on thriving to be skinny. If possible try to focus and put your heart and soul into something you really enjoy doing regardless as to whether its knitting, climbing mountains, writing, sport etc. Achievement doesnt come by being skinny and ill. I wish you all the luck in the kiddo x

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  • H Heliza,

    Have you told your Mum how you feel? It may be that the doctor has referred you and is waiting for a specialist bed. I know that depending on where you live that can take time, but please be re-assured that the GP will be monitoring your physical health (or should be) and if there is any likelihood of real risk you would be admitted as an emergency. When my daughter has been very low BMI, the doctors have checked her blood pressure and taken bloods (to check things like platelets, liver function) at least once a week. If they aren't doing so, you should ask your Mum to ask why they haven't.

    Even if you are frightened of eating more than 500 calories, you obviously know you need help, so don't be afraid to ask for it! Good luck! x

  • Do you have more than one GP in your practice - a second opinion might be good. You could also ring the ABC helpline and talk things through with them - or BEAT - they both give advice and support - it would be good to talk to a specialist - especially with your low BMI and calorie intake.

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