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Well didn't really no what to do so I'm coming here as have no family to talk to i havent spoken to any of my family including my 5 children in 9 years and yes its been hell, I consider people on here to be my surrogate family as i dont do facebook or social media, some might think this is silly but I'm a very compassionate person and with my depression and anxiety I find certain things hard to take on board and feel overwhelmingly upset, so just red that tv presenter Caroline flack is dead she's commit suicide and though I didn't no her personally I see her everyday on celeb news and headlines and no she's been through a very traumatic time lately and went down a bit of a poop path, it's made me really really sad to think that she had no one she could go to and talk to or that she didn't ask for help, another life wasted and another family distraught, I just wanted to tell everyone no matter what there is ALWAYS someone to talk even if you just want to sit with some one and not talk just be with another human, there's ALWAYS someone anytime night or day, just reach out please nothing is worth your life ending, To everyone and anyone who needs a hug, a hand held or just a smile, I love you all, stay safe, and stay strong through pain and suffering and be kind to one another, all my love and biggest hugs to you all, R.I.P Caroline flack xxxxxx

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Oh I am so sorry and do understand. That's so sad you have been unable to talk with your 5 children. Me and my only daughter have not spoken for over 20 years. So yes I can empathise with you even though our not talking is completely mutual.

This is the first I have heard of Caroline Flacks death how sad. She seemed such a strong minded lady. I never watched Love Island. But I did see her on Strictly.

Its so sad and again I can empathise. I myself lost my niece aged 44 she was buried yesterday.

No one ever knows what others are suffering with that's why I always try not to judge.

I am glad you feel comfortable enough to come here to talk. I hope everyone reading this please know you can come here if you feel the need to talk. Your right Claire No one should ever feel alone. A problem shared is a problem halved. And I am a great believer in talking things over.

My thoughts are with anyone who is suffering right now 😔😔

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Clairegavin77 in reply to Dizzytwo

Thank you momo this means the world to me in so many ways and I wish I could give a massive cuddle in person right now but sending 1 instead, I'm so sorry for the loss of your niece, the world is a cruel cruel place sometimes and makes me take a step back and think how life can be here 1 minute then gone the next, I've got to a place in my life where I'm ok over the whole not having seen my children in so long and I guess I've learned to live with it, I dream of them every night and it hurts when I wake up and their not there it's almost like I mourning them but I keep going and will continue to keep going and fighting the depression in memory of people such as Caroline flack a beautiful young lady with the world at her feet but the world consumed her God rest her sole, let's hope 1 day things will change with our children, all my love to you momo your a fantastic lady with massive heart 😚😚

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Dizzytwo in reply to Clairegavin77

I think we have to try and stay in the moment and deal with each day as it comes. 😘🤗🤗

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Hi

I'm so sorry for you both, it must hard do your children not talking to you.

Momo, I'm thinking if you at this difficult time, your niece was so young.

I'm thinking of you clauregavin and Momo, you are both in my thoughts and prayers. With all my love and hugs Lynne xxxx

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Thank you Lynne, your a very kind lady. My daughter chose her own path. And she's never changed in 20 years. But we both understand each other and we have never had any friction or arguments . Yes of course I wish things had turned out differently but they didn't. That's life I guess.

She may be my daughter but she's also an individual in her own right. She therefore has to except the consequences for her actions just like everyone else as too IMO also she's no longer a child she's 43.

I hope you have a peaceful Sunday 😘

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Thank you Lynne that's so kind of you, it's very hard but it something I've had to learn to live with it doesn't make it any easier though, I really appreciate your kind d comment xxx

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You are so very welcome. Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

Hi, i don't know who Caroline flack was bit I've read about her but there appears to have been a bit of a witch hunt on her. She made a mistake,it's sad very sad.

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Good morning Fibro nice to meet you :) No one knows the truth behind the things that people or papers may say about others thats for sure. But if we read and believe what we see in the papers. The young lady seemed to have been a troubled soul most of her life. But only one person will ever know what made her take her life. What ever it may have been it is very tragic that's for sure 😌

If anyone reading this post feel they may also need someone to talk with privately. May I recommend they call the Samaritans help line. You will find there help line on the link below xx

samaritans.org/

I hope you have a good day Fibro and Storm Dennis is not causing too much damage where you are 🤞🤞🤗

Mo

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Aw thank you, I'm stayin inside touch wood nothing will fall off the roof or electric won't get cut off. X

I think we all have a lot to learn from this, to be kind and not gossip/speculate cos it can ruin peoples lives. X

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I completely agree 100% i have personally been experiencing neighbour bullying since last year and I can talk from personal experience. No matter how strong a person is it can really drag you down.

The sad thing is I think their attitude towards me started simply because they don't understand my illness and they really don't want to.

They don't know me they know nothing about me. Yet they can judge me. Some people IMO need to take a serious look at themselves and to go get a life.

They say the pen is mightier than the sword and boy is that true. Fortunately I'm a strong person and really enjoy my own company 😊 And I really wouldn't consider having such toxic people in my life. Stay warm and safe 🤗

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I've experienced it too, people can be so cruel and unkind, when they know absolutely nothing about you!?

I am enjoying my own company now, especially since I've been made redundant, as you say better than having toxic people in your life and it's no good for our health condition/s.

Not many people understand fibromyalgia, we don't look ill, so therefore we are not ill, ignorant. Not many caring people out there unfortunately, it's sad but true. X

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Hi me again lol, I just wanted to say that's why I like to be part of a friendly forum like this. Hopefully we can continue to keep our forum friendly and clique free. Cliques on forums are the pits.

Also want to thank Clairegavin77 for starting this post. Only those who suffer no matter what the problem can understand what others are dealing with.

So anyone out there looking in please know you will be very welcome to join in on any of topics or maybe you have something you wish to post 😊 we are not medically trained but we can offer support. It doesn't matter if your a new member or an old member or where you live. Your all welcome. All we ask is please keep within the forums guidelines xx

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Oh I'm new, hi everyone and thank you for welcoming me x

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And a very warm welcome to you🤗 Just a thought Fibro maybe you would like to do a little intro post and tellus a little about yourself 😊 if you don't want to that's ok. It just helps others to get to know you and gives us a little insight to you health issues. But what ever you wish to do is ok either way. If you need any help with anything on the forum please just ask. I'll will do my best help. I'm new here too but not to HU moderating. So I'm still navivigating through the forum myself 😜😁

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Clairegavin77 in reply to Dizzytwo

Thank you mo, I just need to let everyone no that no matter what there is always someone there to talk, thank you for your support xx

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Dizzytwo in reply to Clairegavin77

Your very welcome, I think everyone now and again needs a friendly ear. And I'm no different so thanks to everyone for letting me natter on too. Mind I'm a Yorkshire lass and we love to chat 😂😂

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Clairegavin77 in reply to Dizzytwo

From a Welsh lass to a Yorkshire lass chat away mo ☺😚

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👍😂😂

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Clairegavin77 in reply to Clairegavin77

I have a hiatal hernia as well love and Ibs, I have endometriosis, hypersensitivity and waiting to be diagnosed with fibromyalgia been waiting for ages, my family is also very toxic so it's just me my fiance and my dog, I also have very bad depression and anxiety, I'm on a lot of different meds, so your not on your own love xxx

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Clairegavin77 in reply to Dizzytwo

Mo, I honestly don't know what I did to have you come into my life but I feel blessed to no you, your comments resignate with me so much and at 42 I wish I'd had a mother like you, hope your feeling well today the storm is awful so stay cwtched up, lots of love Claire xxx

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Very sad fibro786 and the press that in my eyes done a lot of the damage are now ( poor Caroline ) they make my tummy churn x

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Exactly, something very evil about it all x

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Give it a title. Like Hello for example. You write your post in the big box below. Then scroll down a little then press post.

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