Does fibro/Me make you feel guilty

[Dizzytwo]

I am guessing it will depend on how badly your Fibro effects you. But after having it for 30 + years I have to be honest at times it makes me feel very guilty.

There is just so little I can do now with out help on all fronts. Yes I never stop trying but it's never enough I feel I should be trying harder.

I know I never asked for this illness but neither did my husband. I think the last time we had an evening out was 30 years ago. He's a very kind and caring man but yes of course I feel a burden. Fibro did not just ruin my life in many ways he lost his too.

I feel guilty all the time that when ever we get invited hubby has to go alone for example. I feel very bad that he always as to socialise alone. We have very few friends that pay us a call. In fact since we moved here 6 years ago I have never been able to go anywhere to make friends. I think most people think my hubby is a widower how sad is that.

I need help with everything around the home. I'm a wheelchair user and have mild agoraphobia. So hubby gets to do the grocery shopping and any other outside errands we need.

I think fibro makes a lot of people feel guilty for a lot of different reasons. I know I never asked to get this stupid illness. But neither did did my husband sign up to go through life without a partner.

But I'm one of the lucky ones and I am thankful everyday for my husband. But yes I do still feel guilty even though fibro and other mental and physical issues are beyond my control.

Mo

[Pat9]

Mo I am the same my husband does a lot and I feel guilty too.. you are ill though so not your fault and I am sure he really doesn't mind, it's our own self criticism most of the time that makes us feel guilty as if we don't suffer enough xx

[Dizzytwo in reply to Pat9]

We are our worst enemy sometimes that's for sure. I just hope I would be as strong as my hubby if things were reversed. I would like to think I would.

But we hear of so many poor souls who's marriage /relationships have broken up because of chronic ill health XX

[Mackembabe]

Hi Mo I think that is how we all feel and Yes Pat9 that is also right we suffer enough without feeling guilty so lets try and stop, we all have each other besides out other halves bless them Love & Hugs Xx

[Dizzytwo in reply to Mackembabe]

Yep let's try and stop 🤐😁🤗🤗

[Mackembabe in reply to Dizzytwo]

its not going to be easy but we can try hun Love & Hugs Xx