I write here because I have not found the answer in the expected places, while I have found much emotional intelligence on this board.
irina1975 and chrysalis8x have talked about managing one's response to various emotions. If I am offended, that is an issue for me to process, not the offender.If he makes me angry, I need to change the way I respond, not focus on changing his behaviour.
I have learned to ignore ranting and raving. I have though found no way to deal with comments which to my mind stigmatise me or demean me. These can take me to a very dark place.
If you tell a man with paranoid schizophrenia that he is a complete "nutter" and needs to go away and get treatment, you have not helped him. He likely understands his need anyway in lucid intervals. When you tell a man with manic depression to "carry on taking the tablets" this can be a disabling blow below the belt, and may betray barely suppressed prejudice.
These are not random irrelevant thoughts. When my son persistently called me a filthy Daily Telegraph reading Tory, I joined the Labour Party and canvassed for them in 2015, which made him incandescent and did wonders for my endorphin levels.
When my wife dismisses my opinion, saying this is your mental illness talking, I have no answer and my adrenaline and cortisol levels surge, setting off my AF. I still haven't learned to walk away.
Some of the comments I have attracted here have given me in a very small way, an insight in to what it must feel like to be neither white, male, straight, able bodied, or independent of charity in our so called caring society.