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Let me try this again, goodbye all.

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Hopefully the admin won't abruptly delete this post. I would like to say a heartfelt goodbye to all the wonderful members in the group. It's in in my best interest to no longer partake in any and all posts/discussions. It's my wish that the active posters continue to help others. Goodbye all.

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NWLiving profile image
NWLiving

It can be too much to think about and enjoy all that life otherwise has to offer.

Shooter1 profile image
Shooter1

I tried to post to settle things down a little, but Darryl already jumped on the posts that were offensive. The boys were getting a bit rowdy.

Addios friend! Good luck!

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Boywonder56

Were all dealing with the same thing here...a life changing dx...we express our feelings differently...and we try to accomadate evryone..some are more angry than others..and i for 1 dont blame them.but it seems that what does the most good is questions and answers for the common goal of qol and os....with dignity and comfort...causing a stir because you got dealt a bad hand is gonna cause a stir ..and prob get you excommunicated...use this forum to educate yourself on how to handle this disease and it can be beneficial...use it to show your displeasure at drawing aces over eights..youll get run out of town...hope you see my point....b.w.

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Kaliber

This group is unique in as much as there are a lot of:

People helplessly facing death and angry about it

mentally delicate old men that would already be impaired due to age without cancer and drug treatments .... but do have terminal cancer and understandably grouchy.

Men still trying to retain some semblance of manhood ,studliness but are helpless in the bedroom and extremely unhappy about how their life has turned, our manhood sacrificed for extended time with our loved ones ....

Men and wives utterly devastated , that sometimes feel like striking out in helplessness.

All this and never mind the elephant in the room, brain cell adt and met damage that totally alters many of us related to normal brain function.

And a lot more ......

No rational, logical person could or should expect everyone here to be a gentleman , respectful, cheerful or even level headed all the time. Many of us cry out to the group with anger, anguish, disappointment, or fear .... this group the natural place to cry out that way.

Look , we are all brothers in this disease that is marching our a$$s to death. In good times we’d never all get along all the time, never mind in our death - drug saturated reality.

So .... buddy , you know who...hidden ... we love you here .... it’s best to try to catch your anger ( either side ) but sometimes we forget or it’s our alpha ego getting loose.... the admin will step in ... it’s not malice.... and stop it and cool things down if we can’t nip it ourselves.

Don’t go wandering off pi$$ed , no need for that. Just try to take a step back and understand our unusual circumstances and just go silent, or if you can summon it up ... give that angry guy a ehug .... I’ll bet he really needs one ( even if he doesn’t know ) .....we.....all ..... are bigger that that and after everything said and done we’re all still brothers croaking in the end.

Stay here active in the group with the rest of us .... all of us need each other. ........ for the handful that just read this and said “ go #$&@ yourself and shut the hell up bozo “ .... that’s kewl , I’ve been cursed and attacked by experts, you lightweights “ can’t touch this “ ( mc hammer ) yayahahahaya yayahahahaya. Comm’on now .... lighten up and relax brothers.

Just say’in 😁😁😁😁😁❤️❤️❤️

Schwah profile image
Schwah in reply to Kaliber

Now that’s a great post Kaliber. Maybe the best one I’ve seen in my 8 years reading virtually every post. Thx for that...

Schwah

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Kaliber in reply to Schwah

I dunno if I’d go that far, thanks for the sentiment.... I appreciate it.

Just say’in 😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️

Love all of you.

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Fightinghard in reply to Kaliber

Kaliber

Your positive attitude always inspires.

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Kaliber in reply to Fightinghard

Thank you brother ❤️❤️❤️

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LearnAll in reply to Kaliber

Kalibur,

You just proved to all that in spite of our difficult situation, one can have civil and positive attitude. Thank You.

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Kaliber in reply to LearnAll

❤️❤️❤️

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MSTI in reply to Kaliber

Thank you Kaliber.

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Kaliber in reply to MSTI

❤️

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lancer82801 in reply to Kaliber

Well said Kaliber Thanks for putting into words the anger, angst, helplessness and frustration most of us feel at some points on this path none of us chose. Lance

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Kaliber in reply to lancer82801

❤️

SeosamhM profile image
SeosamhM in reply to Kaliber

A "Kal-El" comment, if you get my drift. Sums up the stormy emotional environment we are particularly sensitive to and desperate to work out.

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to SeosamhM

Yep, I hear that .... hey maybe there’s an upside to the anger and despair..... takes our minds off the cancer ??? ...... oh wait .... that IS the cancer talking yayahahaha yayahahaha. “ Never Mind “ ( Roseannadanna ... Saturday night live )

💪💪💪❤️❤️❤️

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MMK-XFuture in reply to Kaliber

Great post, Kaliber. Hit it right on the head. Thanks. We should all just lighten up, take it easy. Life is short and even shorter for some of us here. Add to our concerns, the traitor Covid. Take care everyone.

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to MMK-XFuture

👏👏👏😁😁😁

Schwah profile image
Schwah

Guess I’m missing some elephant in the room but I hate to see anyone leave who can get something outta here and contribute something back. Please reconsider brutha.

Schwah

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addicted2cycling in reply to Schwah

IMO, THE WAY ONE SHOULD LEAVE THIS HELPFUL BUT SOMETIMES ORNERY FORUM IS BY DEATH. While alive and posting, there is ALWAYS the possibility of HELPING ANOTHER.

PLEASE, HANG AROUND

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to addicted2cycling

👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️

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16starsky in reply to Kaliber

Nice one Kal 🧡

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Kaliber in reply to 16starsky

❤️❤️❤️

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dockam

My two cents: youtube.com/watch?v=qFJLvY5...

Fight on Brothers

Randy

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Deadstick

These forums should be REQUIRED reading for all Urologists, Social Workers, Psychologists or any other caregiver with prostate cancer patients. It would be really refreshing to ask one of these clinicians a question about apples and not get an answer about bananas, an eye roll or silence for a change.

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SpencerBoy11 in reply to Deadstick

I would add that it should be read by all men and doctors who treat men in any fashion. Total ignorance about PCa by so many is the biggest killer of us.

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nonm in reply to Deadstick

so very much agreed !

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Cooolone

OMG hahaha, I got a new phone and for the last day or so, offline! Seems I've missed something important!!!O.o

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Chugach

I do t know what I missed- but bring the rage! This shit sucks

dadzone43 profile image
dadzone43

Go in peace. I hope you will a space from which you can change your mind.

Januarybeauty profile image
Januarybeauty

it's never good bye...you will only be in the upper room...

Karirudy profile image
Karirudy

Blessings to you !

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Turt713171

Please explain why? I am deducing it is about some untoward words???

Doseydoe profile image
Doseydoe

Sounds like a cry for help to me

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

Hey folks............ a dab of cologne once in a while might help.............

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 05/07/2021 7:18 PM DST

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

You must have one of those fancy new “ Smellinet “ routers ... it's like “ smellivision “ television but for people that use the web. Its really effective on the adult sites.... but I wish they had more aromas tho . “ ewe too “ one of my favorites.

Just say’in 😂😂😂😂

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n

Greetings Hidden,

Please tell us your bio. Age? Location? When diagnosed? Treatment(s)? Treatment center(s)? Scores Psa/Gleason? Medications? Doctor's name(s)?

All info is voluntary, but it helps us help you and helps us too. When you respond, copy and paste it in your home page for your use and for other members’ reference.

THANK YOU AND KEEP POSTING!!!

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 05/07/2021 7:23 PM DST

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

You missed the early part, you know who this is.

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n in reply to Kaliber

It's me..........

BTW my cologne is called "Avoid Me".... works like a charm.........

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 05/07/2021 10:11 PM DST

in reply to j-o-h-n

Kewl!!!

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Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

It’s not your cologne ( well might be , bought from the dollar store ) ..... it’s those skid marks that are the “ avoid me “ element .....

Just say’in 😂😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n in reply to Kaliber

I changed over to a new cologne called "Vanish". When you put it on you totally disappear and everyone wonders where the smell is coming from......

Just say’in 😂😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Friday 05/07/2021 11:51 PM DST

Kaliber profile image
Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

That’s the name of a toilet bowl cleaner isn’t it ?

j-o-h-n profile image
j-o-h-n in reply to Kaliber

Toilet bowl? If you're referring to that round fountain in the bathroom, that's our dishwasher...

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Saturday 05/08/2021 10:51 AM DST

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Kaliber in reply to j-o-h-n

Ewwwwwwwww 👏👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️

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