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Lost the battle last night


With great sorrow I let you know my beloved husband lost his battle with this beast last night. My heart is broken.

I do want to thank all of you in this site. Throughout this battle your knowledge led us to different treatments, your faith kept our faith strong and your humor made us smile and sometimes laugh out loud. Thank you and best wishes to all of you warriors

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I am so sorry to hear this. He was lucky to have you by his side. It is so hard to get out of the mode of fighting all the time.

in reply to Tall_Allen

Oh Allen. That is what I have said to everyone. I did not know how to stop the fight. My body is still running.

Dear Dalipup , I pray for your broken heart to mend with time.. May your beloved husband rest with the angels in heaven . He suffers no more . My heart goes Out to you .. I’m sorry 😩...remember the love ❤️ 🙏

in reply to Whimpy-p

Thank you so much. I am happy to see his pain gone. Now mine begins. We had a great life together it was just far too short!

in reply to Dalipup

Although right now you are in pain

, You will heal in time . As a man with a wife and APC I pray that your pain will be overcome with love and light. My Wish Is for you now and my wife after I’m gone to not continue to suffer after we are gone. Peace and healing to you 🙏

My condolences Dalipup. So sorry to hear . Hang in there .

in reply to G9doingfine

Thank you!

I'm so sorry to hear the news and I hope that you take the time that you need to grieve, however long that takes.

in reply to TeleGuy

I think this is going to take quite awhile. Since a bit over two years ago we went into fight mode so none of this was processed. Just kept moving and fighting and enjoying days together. Now it feels like two years of stuff has to be sorted in our hearts and minds Good luck to you steve!

So sorry to hear. Yes, it will take time. My condolences.

So sorry 😥

Thank you for taking the time from your grieving to let us know. Very thoughtful as you know how much this group cares. We just hates to lose one of our own. I pray that they able to make him comfortable thru hospice.


After reading what you have been through in such short time, please take care of yourself. You deserve a rest. My condolences and prayers to you.


So very sad to hear of your Husbands passing far too soon.

May God comfort you and your family at this terrible time.

Knowing that he had you by his side will have given him great comfort,

Take care Kim xx

May your husband.s soul travel peaceful, eternal journey . Almighty bless you with serenity to bear this loss. You stood by him like a rock till the end..and that shows your kindness and courage.

I am so, so sorry. Dave’s death is a loss to all PCa patients. I know John and I were very affected that you could not return to Germany ~ Dave’s progress represented John’s potential progress and visa-versa.

Now Dave is enjoying those bright lights and all that food he talked about! And you are left behind, with a broken heart, but with faith in knowing you will see him again. Plus you have a beautiful son that will always be a reminder of the happy days in your marriage.

Please accept our heartfelt condolences, and, as others have said, please take care of You as you muddle through the upcoming weeks. I’m sure you are exhausted and could sleep for a month.

😢xo -Karen

So sorry to hear but at least in heaven there is no more pain. He is lucky to have a loving caregiver in you. May you and your family find peace and comfort during this difficult time.

Amén 🙏 Rest In Peace



You sorrows are our sorrows. God bless you and yours.

Those and yourself who are worn out and crushed by your husband's passing, and thus in mourning--->Let your heart consider this: This is the path that has existed from the time of creation, and will exist forever. Many have drunk from it and many will yet drink. May the Master Of Comfort, provide you with a special peace. The Shalom Ha Gadol--->a great peace that transcends time. and may those that mourn along with you be especially blessed.


Your words are wise.. you speak truth.. they are a comfort...

So sorry to hear of you and your family's loss. Memories bring strength.

So sorry for your loss dalipup .... I think that all of us here , in line to be next , hope to have someone like you to hold our hand , kiss us goodbye and to grieve for us a little when we are gone. He would be very comforted by your love.

I also think that .... after you grieve for a while ... he would want you to lift your gaze and look up to the bright new horizon that lies ahead for you. This difficult chapter of your life concluded and a whole new bright world awaits ... one full of promise and potential . The weight of loss will always be there but will diminish over time ... he would strongly wish for you to go out , move ahead and fully engage in the future that he could not. I think he would want that for you very much.

Best wishes ...

So sad for you, Dalipup, but do hope you can take some comfort knowing that your loved one is now free of pain and suffering.

Please accept my condolences Dalipup. I hope you can find peace. I know he would want that. I think I speak for all of us that are in the fight feel the same way. He was lucky to have you by his side. Peace be with you.

in reply to Fuzzman77

Thank you so much. I know he would not want me to suffer any more his greatest concern in this fight was how it would affect not only me but our young son as he heads to college .

Sorry to hear this news. May you find the strength needed to carry on with your memories.

Dear Dalipup, you both have been through so much these past few years. I pray 🙏 you find the strength to get through this next challenge and find the joy of life again soon. DD

in reply to Doseydoe

Thank you so much

My condolences. Wishing you and the family peace.

I am so sorry. 2 years of this can wear a person down. I know you will find your way. Blessings to you and Dave and family and friends.

in reply to monte1111

There is definitely a lot of healing needed after this battle. Once we get through this week of saying goodbye we plan to rest and go slowly.

I'm so sorry - sending love and prayers. Know that you will see him again one day. ❤️

in reply to Susanna1013

That knowledge is what I am holding onto. Thank you

Oh no😭

My deepest condolences to you and the family.

Rest in Peace Sir and suffer no more



With deepest sympathy for your loss of dear husband.

I am so sorry for your loss, Again as a wife my heart is so sad for you 🙏. From reading post you fought with husband for more time and you got some but not enough Damn this C

Agreed damn this C! He was too young but no time would ever have been enough. I'll miss him so!

My sincere condolences may there be peace now

My condolence

We fight so hard.. we live with hope and grief..

We are here for you.. for whatever that can mean or help..

There are no words for grief.. just love sent to you by so many of us...

in reply to Bluebird11

Thank you so much. We always tried to hold onto the hope. Even to the day he passed. Grief is certainly a black hole!

Sorry to hear that. I hope he didn't suffer too grievously and hope that you can find peace of mind.

I am so sorry. Sending you wishes for strength and peace. May your husband Rest In Peace.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

May you find peace in your fondest memories of the good times.

Our hearts go out you, rest now and try hard to remember the good times before this beast entered into your lives.

You will see your husband again.


Phil xx

in reply to Lettuce231

Putting together the photo boards for his funeral showed us how many good times we had. Even after this began we still fought to make beautiful memories. Thank you!

I'm so sorry - sending love and prayers. We all have our time, but I worry for my loving wife as I know she as you have suffered through this also. His pain is gone and hopefully yours will be too. He was so lucky to have you by his side. Bless you..

in reply to lincolnj8

Thank you

My sincerest condolences.

Its just so hard to know exactly what to say when I see the widows left by Pca. IMHO, your loss must allow some grieving, so may your tears wash away your pain, and I hope there are others near you who will be comfort in your time of need. Sadness when a loved one departs should give way to happy memories and some green shoots of recovery may grow from your loss. It just takes time, and you ought to know whose shoulder you can dampen with tears.

All the best my dear,

Patrick Turner.

Plunged into a deep sorrow on hearing the loss of your beloved husband.

May you overcome the load of sadness soon enough with more courage to face the life ahead and treasure the memories of him as his most devoted wife.

May he rest in eternal peace and you be salvaged from all pains 🙏.

So sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. Another PC Warrior gone far too soon. My husband passed in January this year. Sending warm hugs and my prayers. 🙏🙏

in reply to Izab

Prayers to you as well. Seeing you able to post six months later gives me strength to see tomorrow in all its ugliness and beauty.

Dalipup, I’ve been on both sides of this, as a hospice nurse taking care of a dear one who has passed and now with APC myself. The nurse in me, wants you to know it’s ok to cry anytime and to grieve the way you want to. Unfortunately, people in their own unsecure way, say things they mean for good but are awful. Only you can grieve your way. The way, I feel, God designed you. Praying for you

in reply to B8ssist

Thank you. I know most people mean well but wow some things they say are crazy. Why I love this site is you all get it! You know how this feels and are walking or have walked the same path. What a comfort

My sincere condolences .

My deepest condolences. Stay strong in his memory and take good care.


Thinking of you. So sorry for what you’re experiencing and what you and your husband have experienced through the last 2 years.

Hi Dalipup

So sorry for your loss. May his soul attain eternal peace, divine light and unconditional love of the almighty. Strength and solace to you in knowing that he is not suffering anymore and is truly at rest and will always be connected with you via the cord of undying love energy.

God bless. Om Shanti 🙏🙏

My sincere condolences ma’am. My heart is saddened by this news. May God bless you and strengthen you at this sorrowful time . Your husband is resting high on that mountain! No more pain, no more tears! May God’s peace that surpasses all understanding fill you in these coming days❤️


May the peace of God that surpasses all human understanding be with you and your family during this season of loss.

So sorry for your loss, my sincere condolences to you for another Brother taken from this dreadful disease.

Dalipup, condolences from all of us on this site. God Bless.

Dear Dalipup, I’m sorry to hear this. I pray and hope that you will achieve peace soon. Good wishes and take care of yourself.

I’m so sorry. May God grant him peace and May He fill your heart with tranquility. Hugs. 🧡😢

My deepest condolences to you. In time you will find peace and get the strength to move forward. Cherish the memories.

I am so sorry to read this. Wrapping you in love and praying you find peace in the days ahead.

I’m so sorry to hear this. Wishing you peace.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. He was fortunate to have you and I hope memories of happier times together can help sustain you through this difficult period.

I so hate cancer, so sorry for your loss 😢. Every day I get up and thank God for another day. Dreading the day when I can’t do it anymore. May he Rest In Peace. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

I hate cancer as well. It has taken too many people I love. Thank you for your prsyers!

I am sorry for your lost. When one of us hurts we all hurt with you. I pray that God will comfort you and bless you.

I know your heart is heavy -with time, the trauma of experiencing his pain and death will ease and what will become more of a focus will be all of the good times and memories. I don't know you but I wish I could wrap my arms around you and cry with you. It is a very painful time and I hope the universe will give you the strength you need.

in reply to MeliaQuinn

Oh we do know each other. We traveled this same road of horror together and lost our lives within months of each other! We know each other far better than many of those who physically know me. Take care of yourself as well

To the good fight. Now you find peace. I would like to thank you and all caretakers for what you do for us. I sometimes think we may have the better of it because we have pills for our pain. Thank you for bringing life into us and not letting us fall.

So so sorry for your loss!

My deepest condolences.

I am so sorry to hear this. Prayer to you.

We may eventually need a group of wives who Had husbands that lost the PC battle.

My deepest most profound sympathies go to you.

There are no words during a time like this-

My husband also succumbed to PC in January this year.

You will be stronger than you know.

You will get through all the details you have to get through.

Then you will somehow realize that he is out of pain now and perhaps find peace there.

One day at a time you and your memories together find a place, and you know you will survive this.

Peace be with you!

in reply to DSEE

I agree we do need a site for wives of those who are gone! My friends all want to help but they don't know the intimate details that wives on this site know! We give each other strength


It was with sorrow that I read the heading of HU's first post this morning, your post. It was in the right order, number one.

Still in fight mode! A passing, a loss as significant as you have had, we all handle it differently. Some are immediately emptied and some may have a delayed reaction. Be ready for that.

Please take care of yourself. Do what you have to do whether it is some alone time or the companionship of a close relative or friend for a bit.

It will take time. We "don't get over it". We can --and it takes time-- "learn to live with a significant loss". The truth is--it sucks!

Your post has touched us. The responses show--the plain fact --that we care for each other here.


in reply to Currumpaw

The responses in this site are overwhelming me with love! I'm so glad I found this home with folks that truly understand what everyone is going through. No matter which way you approach things loss is hard. I know once all of this business of funerals is over the quiet pain will set in thank you for your words!

Sad to hear of your loss. My your husband Rest In Peace.

So sorry to hear this. He is now at home with his creator looking down upon you and pain free.

So sorry for your loss. We honor your love and stand by you at this time.

Sincere condolences! You both fought the good fight. He’s now freed of his suffering. Time heals.

I'm so very sorry. I pray that your memories bring you peace and comfort.

I’m sorry. If we live to be 50 or 90, life is short. Peace be with you both.

Dear Dalipup- I am very sorry for your loss. I am sure it was comforting to him to know you were there, with him, throughout this terrible ordeal. May you remember the good times you had together often.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no advice as I’m struggling to keep my head above water. But I do have prayer and I will pray for peace for you during this indescribable time🙏❤️

in reply to Ali1980

I understand that struggle to keep afloat! What an effort it takes! I keep all of you in my prayers. It's all we can do walk along side each other on this nasty road!

May God Bless you and your family - I wish you Peace and Comfort - Amen.

So saddened to hear of your husband’s passing. This site does feel like a brotherhood of men in the same struggle, but none of us has this disease alone. Unfortunately, we share it with our spouses and children and friends, where it infects them with the same worries and concerns. On behalf of all of us brothers we kindly thank you for your loving care of Dave. He so desperately needed you and you were with him to the end.

in reply to Scoofer33

Thank you for your kind words. When I talk about his disease I have always said "we" have cancer. Because it does infect us all

Sending my sincere sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband. Blessings and peace.

Sorry for the loss of your husband!May the good Lord comfort you during this difficult time!

I am sorry to hear that. Please think about the positive side that your husband no longer suffers the pains.

So sorry.

God Bless You and Your Family.

So sorry for your loss, hopefully your memories of your life together will bring you some peace🙏

I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope that you are able to find some measure of comfort in special memories you shared with him. Peace and blessings.

My condolences . You both fought the good fight.

So sorry, sending love and prayers!

I hate to hear this. But I wish you the comfort that your wonderful memories will provide for you and you your family. Best wishes.

My deepest condolences to you. We share your pain.

Dear Dali, Of course I am saddened by the news that you husband "Dave" has passed away. I am saddened at your loss of a Man you fought for during the years of his confirmed Pca. However for Dave I am joyful that his misery is gone and I want to do a happy dance for him. I know he left this earth at a rather young age of 65 but at least both of you have a son who will be the shadow of his Father. So Dave if you can read this save me a good seat....

Saturday 06/20/2020 8:02 PM DST

in reply to j-o-h-n

I do agree and I hope he is doing a happy dance as well! His inability to walk in the end hurt. I kept expecting him to walk through a door. Now I pray he is running and jumping and dancing.

So sorry for your loss

God bless you and your entire family. I wish you peace and good memories until you and your husband meet again.

I am so sorry. May you find comfort.

Sorry to hear this sad news. Condolences.

So sorry for your loss!! Sending prayers

May he rest in peace - we share in the loss ....

My deepest condolences.

We feel your loss...may you see him everyday within your mind!!!


I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.

I am so very sorry for your loss and hopefully in the weeks and months to come it will be a comfort to you to know that he is no longer suffering and at peace. Love and strength to you.

I'm so very sorry, Dalipup! Be kind to yourself as you adjust to the new realities - it can be hard to put the pieces back together after you have been so dedicated to fighting at your husband's side. I hope you and your son can help steady and comfort each other. My Mom has been my rock during these past months. Feel free to share here if you need to talk and know that my prayers and the prayers and thoughts of so many here are with you and your family! Peace to you all <3


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