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Update: Zytiga failure, Chemo. . . Mike is gone

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I posted this in my other thread, but thought it would be better to start a new one. So many thanks to those whose posted in response and tried to help. The last 48 hours have been a nightmare. It was so obvious to us that was something was seriously wrong with my husband, Mike, and Friday evening I called 911 to have him taken to the hospital. No more second-guessing. After hours of tests in the E/R he was finally admitted. My heart was already broken -- hearing him say 'Oh God, I'm dying' was torture on top of torture for me and our sons. Early Saturday morning we got a call from the doctor treating him who gave us the devastating news: a CT scan revealed a 'large mass' that was bleeding into his skull. After dealing with folks from our local hospice (Agrace), we had him transferred there in the evening. I was back this morning and he woke up enough to respond and grasp my hand. From there on out, he was given several rounds of morphine as he was in obvious pain. Later, when the nurse and CNA's changed his bedding and inserted a catheter, we were told it was possible he might stop breathing. Five minutes later, he was gone. I cannot say enough wonderful things about this hospice and the care he received in his short time there. Again, I want to thank everyone for your kindness - dmt1121 especially - and to keep on fighting. Never again do I want to see anyone go through what my husband has these last five years; sadly, however, I know I will.

Genny

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RalphieJr64 profile image
RalphieJr64

He's no longer suffering. He had you on this journey we are all facing. God bless you and keep you.

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Shooter1

When my time comes, and it will, I hope I can go in 3 days or less. I've seen too many of us suffer for months after 5-10 years of battling this horrible disease. Sorry for your loss and all the fight that went before. We all feel the loss of another brother in this APc family. God bless you.

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AlanMeyer

I believe that all of us on this forum understand what you and Mike have been through and you have our deep sympathy and sincere condolences.

Alan

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holgar

So sad for you and your family. You are in our thoughts.

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Maleko808

My God bless you and your family.

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YostConner

Genny,

My heart is breaking for you. You’re in my thoughts, and I wish you peace.

Yost.

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Rexwayne

I’m so sorry about your loss. Strange I just wrote about a similar case tonight. I fell at home at was rushed to the ER where after a CT. they found a very large mass in my head. It was larger than a golf ball but smaller than a tennis ball. I was lucky and it came out unattached I one pull the doctor said. I’m starting to think more should have CT scans looking for tumors.

Again I’m sorry for your loss I know it’s hard. I lost my Dad last year to this horrible disease. Prayers for you and your family

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NPfisherman

So sorry for your loss.....may God grant you and your family strength in this time of great sorrow and hardship...

Fish

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noirhole

So sorry for your loss.

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DeanNelson

May God hold you in his arms at this time. Peace be with you

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MichaelDD

Thank you for the strength and courage to allow us to be part of Michael's journey. Each of us holds a piece of him with us now as we continue on. You were a blessing to him. An incredible example of love to your sons. In all now that this is over.. hopefully there is a piece for all of you.

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Tub111

Oh Genny....my heart is so broken...there are no words to express my feelings for you at this difficult moment. How blessed you were to have those last moments with Mike. Brings back my heartache and recent loss and fears...love be with you and Mike. No more suffering ❤️🙏

Sheri

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strummer

So sorry for your loss. I am an “ armchair physician “ too. You were a strong advocate for your husband . He knew he was loved.

My sympathy.

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Sherpa111

Peace to you and your family, Genny.

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Je1234

My heart breaks for you and your children. God be with you.

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Jscjac

Genny, I will hold you and your family very close in my heart and thoughts. Peace and blessings. Julie

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SuppWife

I am so sorry. I can’t imagine what you must be feeling. I am so sorry for immeasurable loss. We never know what struggles are coming. I wish you a measure of peace and the strength to be everything you’ll need to be for yourself and your boys. My deepest sympathies.

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Waubesa94 in reply to SuppWife

Thank-you, SuppWife and to everyone else who responded to my post. I feel as though I have been in some sort of strange time warp these last few days -- hard to describe. Supp: we sound so much alike: our twin sons are 22 and Mike was almost 13 years older. We had planned to do something special for our 25th anniversary in July, but now I will have to find some other way to celebrate the occasion. Peace to all and keep on fighting for yourself or your partner. Genny

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SuppWife in reply to Waubesa94

I said I can’t imagine what you’re going through but as you might guess I’m afraid I do indeed imagine it. The fear of it rarely leaves me since his diagnosis almost a year ago. Our stories are so similar. Feel free to message me anytime.

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Cmdrdata

My sincere sympathy and prayers for you and family. Glad that he was able to grab your hand. That must his way of saying goodbye. I also pray that he is now with the Lord.

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sem275

So sorry for your loss and that you are going through this. My deepest sympathy

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j-o-h-n

Michael from the Hebrew name מִיכָאֵל (Mikha'el) meaning "who is like God?". This is a rhetorical question, implying no person is like God. Michael is one of the archangels in Hebrew tradition and the only one identified as an archangel in the Bible.

May Michael grasp your hand in love forever. God Bless Michael, you, your family and your friends.

j-o-h-n Tuesday 02/19/2019 6:54 PM EST

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erjlg3

Oh Genny.... I'm so deeply sorry for you and your son's pain from Mike leaving the earth. One day at a time. My sincere sympathy :(

🌼Jackie

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dockam

I'm so very sorry to hear of Mike's passing, I'm tearing up now. Damn PCa keeps decimating us. Rest in Peace Michael and suffer no more

Hugs - Randy

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MelaniePaul

Jenny, I am so very sorry for your loss but glad that your husband is no longer suffering. Please look after yourself. Warm wishes, Mel.

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Je1234

This is so difficult. My heart breaks for you. Dad died on March 2 2019. Every day all day I think about him. It’s like a movie I can’t stop watching. I don’t want to let go. God be with you and bring your comfort. My heart is with you.

So sorry for your loss. We’ll light a candle for Mike. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

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