Good Sunday morning to all of you. I find myself reading through everyone’s posts and feeling overwhelmed with a sense of gratitude that I wanted to share with you.
It was one year ago today that my father was diagnosed with high volume metastatic prostate cancer. At the time, my only information and introduction to this awful disease, were the articles that first pop up on google. I read about the horrors of the diagnosis and the anticipated life expectancy. And then I could barely get myself out of bed in the morning to take care of my children. My heart was so broken.
By the grace of God I found this forum and all of you. I know I don’t post much but I am eternally grateful for each and every one of you. Your bravery, optimism, openness and encouragement has made such a difference in my life as I’m sure it has so many others.
Tomorrow is our next oncology appointment and there is the typical associated anxiety that goes with that, however, I am also armed with knowledge and peace; so much of which comes from all of you lovely people. May you know you made a difference ..
Kelly
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Always remember one thing, this site is full of people who have more knowledge that they are willing to share than the oceans have water. No question is a dumb question. The members here are one united family. Even though some of us have our little spats from time to time, we always stand merged as one and never lose focus on the task at hand.
Thanks for the kind words Stumpgirl. Please let us know how the appointment goes. Hopefully you’ve been able to achieve the one overriding message of the forum. Try and have your Dr be an oncologist that specializes in prostate cancer and/or for one of the top notch medical hospitals . I insurance or location make that difficult the. Try and get second opinions from such a dr along the way to help with critical decisions. We are all in your corner. Good luck today.
One year ago on the 18th of June, I went from "we can get it out" to "sorry stage 4, metastasized, fast growing, invasive, it's going to kill you". Didn't listen to him., just started to fight. Still here, still fighting. Google sucks. Any article before 2017 is out dated. Things are changing fast and here is were you will hear about them. Best of luck with tomorrows appointment. We are all anxious when we go in to see were we stand and what has changed, just part of our new life that we live day to day. Stick with him Kelly, people like you are how we are able to carry on with what we are all going through. Thanks,
How great it makes me feel that someone like you is getting so much from this forum who has a family member with prostate cancer. It is always okay to feel sad or depressed, as long as we can put our situations into perspective and have a point of reference that allows us to move ahead, making informed and calm decisions in the face of what can be overwhelmingly emotional.
I am glad we are able to provide some sunshine on those dark days. Hang in there!
I felt the same when my dad was diagnosed with advanced PCa in June 2017. Felt like a huge boulder on my chest, was so helpless. I'm thankful for every day he's with us.
Hi Kelly we are all here for you and your Dad Ana please encourage him to join us in our conversations it helps knowing his struggles are sharred by all of us . Stay positive and never give up. Leo
Thanks for your kind words, and your encouragement for our group. I’m very sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis, but glad you found us here. We are all on the same train here, so you will always find honest and heartfelt empathy and concern, and hopefully some good advice, from the members of our little “family.”
I think we all went through the initial shock and sense of despair when the doctor (usually a urologist) gave us. Mine told me I would likely have about 2-3 years. My poor wife took it harder than I did. I dumped him immediately and found an oncologist at the Mayo Clinic in Jax where I have received excellent treatment since then. I also connected with this group of warriors who provided support and encouragement when I needed it most. This month marks 3 years of being blessed with undetectable PSA , my one bone mets no longer lighting up the scan, and generally feeling good physically, and hopeful emotionally.
Since you are a year into the program, I am sure you already know by now to ignore the statistics. They are wayyyy outdated. Keep us posted on your dad’s progress, and have a blessed 🙏day. 🌞
Hello Stumpgirl, all of us feel the same when we first did research on Internet and everything you find is bad. Finding this site was a really relief to me as well. When I write a post there are a lot of people willing to help me and cannot feel better helping my father as much as I can with all the information I find here.
There are a lot of proofs here of people fighting against this.
We have an appointment tomorrow as well so I will send you all my energy from Spain to you. Best of luck tomorrow
Thank you for the very kind words. This site has been an emotional life saver for me personally, so I truly understand what you mean.
Keep on staying in the now, and listen to all the wise words stated here. These wonderful Humans may have Cancer, but their souls have grown beyond the material.
Awwww How sweet. Hope all went well today with your Dad's oncologist.
BTW when I was stationed in Ft. Gordon, Georgia we use to go into the woods and leave a $20.00 bill in an empty bottle on a tree stump and go back awhile later to find a full bottle of white lighting. Now don't tell me you were the STUMPGIRL filling up those bottles. LOL
I wish I could stake that claim, John but Stumpgirl has dual meaning . It’s part of my last name and also descriptive of my short stature. The appointment didn’t go so well. I would love to have some white lightening right about now.
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