Job hopping, and working for disrespcting boss.

So , I was working in a new job at the end of March. The interview had gone well enough. I probably should have asked more questions at the interview, to get to know the work culture. I gave this job 2 weeks to three weeks, to give it a chance. On the day before I put my notice in the new manager in training, told me she needed me to clock in and get my money counted for my drawer, ( I was a cashier.) The manager over her got on the intercom and said -my name- don't clock in until your scheduled time. I got flustered, and went to leave, but then as I was leaving , that manager talked me out of leaving. That night after work, I could not sleep, because I couldn't stop hyperfocus-ing on the way the new manager in training had got me put on- the spot. So, I decided to put in my notice, (and only then was I able to sleep). The next day, I lay my notice of resignation on the managers desk. I worked for three more days, before I called out sick on my last 2. Self sabatoge or not?

[BlessedLady]

What other problems did you have at this job ? It is not uncommon for higher bosses to over rule lower bosses. Announcing it over the speaker was nothing personal. It took less time and was quicker. That's all, nothing more. You might need to look at the reasons you have left your jobs ? You cannot take things personally. Not if you want to work. You might want to think about seeing a psychologist or therapist if you have a problem with taking things too personally. This can also cause problems in personal relationship. How old are you ?

[Hidden in reply to BlessedLady]

Hi, thank you for responding. I noticed a couple more problems with the job relating to management. For instance, when the manager had given me my 1st interview he brought up to me that he needed someone who would not show up late. So, I always showed up early. Co-workers would tell me to seek him out before it was time to clock in, and when I did go find him to ask me where he wanted me to train for the day, he would look at me like I was crazy. Even, muttering things like; I know I told her 3 o'clock was her clock in time.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Sorry for the grammatical errors. I am on my cell phone.

[BlessedLady in reply to Hidden]

How did you usually know where he wanted you to train ? Did you get along well with your coworkers?

[Hidden in reply to BlessedLady]

I never knew where they wanted me to train, after the first day. Because, on the first day, the manager told me to job shadow one of the other cashier's at her register. I got along with most employees. In response to the question of my age; I am in my forties.

[Hidden]

Work on yourself and education so you can be the leader of all the “bosses” that treat people the way you were treated. Then you can shut them down whenever you see them treating someone badly.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. This makes sense, and it would be a good idea for me to get more education. I had a gut instinct that that job would bring me nothing but misery, and based on the favoritism that was shown to the manager in training, I knew they would take her side any time I brought up an issue. She had worked there long before me, so she had tenure. To most companies their tenured employees are mor readily listened to.

[HxaroClo]

For me it is important to recognize in all relationships things about myself. I have the capacity with ADHD to hyper focus, have challenges with decision making, am either slow with decision making or make decisions on impulse, have auditory processing struggles, and am sensitive to rejection. Sometimes I have to honor my hurt feelings as mine while recognizing that others maybe most probably would not have the same sensitivity.

Employers are people and have their own issues, maybe even ADHD.

They do not have the right to neglect their supervision duties or abuse me as an employee. Hidden makes a good point. We have to teach people how to treat us. Leading up helps us get our needs met.

[Hidden in reply to HxaroClo]

Thank you. I am sensitive about things, and I believe I have trouble with decisions, too.

[Slmndrs]

This is a tactical question, really. If you are independently wealthy and don’t need a job, you might as well quit any job that rubs you the wrong way. If you are in a place with a lot of jobs and opportunities and can realistically easily get a new job, again, the bar for quitting is much lower. The more you need to work, the more important it becomes to figure out how to cope with imperfect supervision at least until you can have a new job lined up before giving notice at the old one.

Very few jobs have truly great supervisors all the way up, and even if you found one that did, all it takes is one illness or retirement and things can change.

I think ideally, these questions you are asking us here now, you would’ve asked before you quit. You may still have quit, but at least you could know that it was considered rather than impulsive.

There is such a thing as a workplace so toxic that it makes sense to quit even without a next job lined up, even without a safety net at all. This job doesn’t sound like that scenario at all. So it’s all about cost/benefit analysis, which is very particular to your individual situation.

[Hidden]

I am also in my forties and have struggled with jobs my entire life. I hate it. It doesn't help that I've been indecisive on my career path and had to switch gears often due to layoffs. That college degree really prepared me! 😉 I've had some really unique successes but when it comes to typical retail jobs or offices, I seem to always draw bullies. And I get frustrated when I feel like management is chaotic or inexperienced.

Like one of the other commenters, I'll remind you that work stuff is rarely personal. Most people are just getting by figuring out how to do their jobs and run their lives. Nevertheless, always defer to the instructions of your direct manager, the one you report to and if they're too busy to be an ongoing resource, ask who they suggest as backup for questions. That clock in stuff sounds like typical retail work (Walmart?) where they can't have you in too early or too late, or out too early or too late. If you're scheduled for, say, 40 hours and you clock in 5 minutes early every shift, that puts you into overtime pay and mucks up their payroll. I know, it seems silly but there is a reason. So, it was nothing about you personally! Then MITs bring their own chaos to the table. Maybe you do just need a calmer work environment. And there's nothing wrong with that! But you also shouldn't beat yourself up over the store's communication issues. Maybe the manger was muttering about your clock in time bc he was wondering why his MIT tried to get you to clock in sooner when he knew you knew the right time. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Don't assume by default that you're a problem. It's probably something or someone else!