So I know I’ve had some pretty significant struggles with making friends and interacting with people for pretty much my whole life. I’ve gotten better but it’s still very much a struggle for me. My issues are different from the really typical social struggles associated with ADHD. I’m the opposite because I’m usually pretty withdrawn, quiet and I’m conflict adverse. The only time when the typical problems come out is when I’m with people I’m familiar with, like my family.
I feel a bit isolated and lonely because I have trouble making friends and connecting with coworkers since I’m so reserved. Other people have a hard time getting to know me because they struggle to talk to me and probably think I don’t like them. Even the friends I currently have struggle a bit and I definitely find myself struggling to participate in my conversations with them, I just sort of lag behind or second guess what I want to say so much that I don’t say anything. I’m also afraid of starting conversations and saying “hi” to other people unless they say it first. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. There’s more but I could spend all day talking about all the social things that scare me or just make me feel uncomfortable.
I don’t know if my problems are related to social anxiety, some other issue or a combination of both. When I was evaluated for ADHD my psychologist did assess me to see if I was on the Autism spectrum, but she was able to rule that out. I was diagnosed with Social Pragmatic Learning Disorder instead but to this day I still don’t understand that disorder very well. I think it’s just a way of diagnosing someone as being “socially awkward “ even though all the articles I’ve read claim it’s more than that and I’m sure they are right I just have a hard time with the concept.
I’m trying to work on this issue but the trouble is I don’t know where to start. Most of the resources I’ve come across are for Autism or ADHD which talk about developing social awareness. Im not so sure my problems are the same. If anyone has any idea on what type or resource would be helpful that would be amazing. And if anyone has struggled with the same kind of problems I’ve experienced I would be happy to hear from them too.