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Help! I have an appointment to see a therapist for the 1st time soon but am reaching out to anyone who sees this right now! I am so stuck and freaking out. I am infuriated that I can't get off the couch and make the food I promised to make for my husband for his lunch tomorrow. I have to do it! I've failed him so many times. I can't do it again. But I'm stuck here shaking at the thought of preparing the meal. I usually cope with videos or food binges but it's not working. It's bad. HELP! How do I get out of this?!

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LostMamaOf2

PLEASE! Someone be there 😭😭😭

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Tikirob

Hey....what is the most manageable step you can take right now?

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Tikirob

And what are you stuck in, is it anxiety, depression, panic?

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

I dont know exactly. I need to finish sonething in the next few hours but when I attempt to get up my mind freaks out and I just stay here shaking.

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

It feels like my mind is yelling at my body to move but my body wont move

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Tikirob in reply to LostMamaOf2

Can you move as you sit down or is it just trying to get up that creates the yelling?

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Tikirob

Ok, that stinks, but I’ve been there myself so I think I understand. I think getting grounded might help. You can do this by sitting up and just concentrating on the feeling of your feet touching the floor and breathing. Don’t worry about having to do something, judging yourself, just feel the floor beneath your feet and take a few breaths

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Tikirob

I’m here to talk you through it as best I can ok?

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

Ok it's kind of throwing the shaking off. But i still feel unsure how to move forward

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Tikirob

I have learned although not always the best at doing it myself that trying to break what you want to do down to the smallest steps is best. So don’t think about making rye sandwich, first see if you can just stand up, even if it’s to sit back down again, could you stand up and then sit down?

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

Yea i can stand now. Shakes wanted to come back but some breathing knocked it back down.

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Tikirob

Great that good to hear!

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

I have no idea who you are but THANK YOU for existing. I was losing my mind and going somewhere dark because I thought no one would hear me.

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Tikirob in reply to LostMamaOf2

Aww that’s so nice to hear, I’m just a person who had a case of insomnia in the states that saw your post haha, but I’m ready to call it a night, wishing you the best, goodnight!

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LostMamaOf2 in reply to Tikirob

Took ingredients out of the fridge, set them on the counter and had to walk out but I'm ok. I think if I do one step and then walk out I might be able to do this.

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Tikirob in reply to LostMamaOf2

Yeah just keep moving forward - you may get lots of negative chatter from your thoughts but just keep going for the next step!

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Tikirob

Sorry my phone went off needed charging!

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Tikirob

I am so glad I was able to help. I have been overwhelmed and just needed someone to talk to quite a few times myself.

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LostMamaOf2

For whatever reason your very existence has given me a calmness. I think I can do this. Your response was EVERYTHING to me today. I can't thank you enough.

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Shnookie

I’m so sorry 😐 that U R going thru this. I know what it feels like to be stuck as though I can’t get off the couch some times

But I’m so proud of U that U R going to see a therapist. Some meds might help U. There

R things U can do like deep breathing,

listen to Music U enjoy. I have a visualization exercise that I use to relax me.

I love all kinds of Latin music and I love

Andrea Bocelli. So on YouTube I found

Bocelli singing Besa Mucho to a receptive

audience in Las Vegas. I close my eyes

Do my breathing exercises and take in the

Beautiful music. It’s such a relaxing

feeling. Remember U have people in

this group who support U. Good luck 🍀

With your doctor’s visit tomorrow

I’m in your corner. Virtual fist 🤛 bump

Hi LostMamaOf2 . When I get locked up as you are describing, I have learned to look at what I am saying to myself. What I read in your post was that you “should” but you “can’t.” When you change your thought to “I choose” and “I can” what happens? What about making lunch is important to you? Why would you choose to make lunch over, say, laying on the couch resting? “Shoulds” imply obligation, not choice, and we with ADHD are very reluctant and resistant to obligations in general.

Courage, you can do this! Be proud that you are reaching out to others, and choose not to should all over yourself 😉

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HeyLA

Do you take any medication? That's important for me every morning as I struggle with being productive.

What is the underlying fear behind doing what you have to do? Or what belief is ingrained in your head that makes you think that you shouldn't be doing this? Or what stories are whirling in your head?

Rule #1: any negative reaction or behaviors are fear based.

Rule#2: choose compassion as feeling a caring and loving way to approach everything will always win.

Use anything to help put your mind at ease like playing upbeat music.

Have the some of it ready the night before so that you don't distract yourself. And don't discount how you feel by being frustrated.

Outsmart yourself with reverse psychology.

Please let us know how it goes.

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Mille_5

Do you have any candles or textured items? I have panic attacks and use my senses to help me calm down as deep breathing doesn’t work for me. I like to smell candles and touch things with fun textures. I have small easy coloring pages and markers to give me something else to think about.

Taking a hot shower also can help me calm down and re focus

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