Need a bit of support. Today, my 6 year old adhd son instead of hitting me during a meltdown ended up hitting himself. I have been struggling with aggression for quite some time but the aggression has always been limited to myself and my husband. I didn't know what to do because he didn't stop trying to hit himself. It scared the crap out of me and I tried to grab him and hold him tight so he would a) feel me hug him and b) restrain him from hitting himself. I almost feel like initially he was genuinely trying to hurt himself and then because he saw me react it turned into him trying to play on my emotions. I even saw him smile as I turned the TV on to get him to calm down. Anyone have experience with this. What would have been the right approach in this scenario?
I feel like there are 2 sides to my son, one that is going through some serious emotional things I can't seem to help him with and another that is trying to manipulate me into giving in all the time because of his condition.
Any help is much appreciated. He is making our home very unpleasant to live in and it seems to be getting worse.