Looking for ADHD coach for my 20 year old son

[Yellowtomato]

My son turns 21 in July and he suffers from ADD predominantly inattentive. He was diagnosed in 5th grade and has been on Adderall and Vivace over the years. He can’t take concerta because he’s allergic. He functioned on meds until his junior year in high school and then he started self-medicating with pot. He was sooo skinny no appetite. Very difficult time. With help from all involved he was able to graduate. Since graduation he has struggled in community college and had difficult time finding work and keeping it. He has a part time job now but unsure how long it will last. I have encouraged him to look into a trade. To learn a skill. He can no longer tolerate his stimulants. Too skinny!! I think he would benefit from an ADHD coach or therapist who can work with him on life skill and coach him. At this point, we need all the tricks and strategies for dealing with ADD and not taking meds. We live in Long Beach, CA. If anyone knows of a therapist or coach who specializes in working with these issues, please let me know.

[Redpanda5]

What you’re going through sounds very difficult. I would first encourage you to find a psychiatrist who can help your son find the right meds. Is he cooperative? Does he want help? Helping him if he wants help us the only thing that will do any good by the time they are hitting adulthood. If he doesn’t want help then there isn’t much you can do but create boundaries for yourself.

As far as adhd coaches I am only familiar with the kind who help kids navigate through the demands of school. I would try to help him find a therapist who can meet him where he is. Lots of Google searches. Don’t wait for a suggestion to come to you. Tirelessly search. Set up appointments with at least three and then let him choose which one he likes. I’m on the other side of the country from you so I have no local suggestions for you but just keep searching. A psychiatrist may have some good recommendations for you. I wish you the best.

[Yellowtomato in reply to Redpanda5]

Thank you 🌺

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My son is 17 y/o and his psychiatric recommended therapy, I on the other hand believes he needs a life coach, my son does not have any behavior issues, per se, but mainly what to do, when to do, and how to do. I did a Google search and came up with some highly qualified life coaches. I have not contacted them because I'm also thinking on what level of responsibility does he need to be on to take advantage of the services. Right now his maturity level is too low