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Growth Mindset- "Grit"

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I know that many of our children struggle to learn in school. I wonder if anyone has looked at the growth mindset or grit?

This concept, when taught to children really helped them be successful in education. When we work hard and have grit we can be successful.

I think this can really help our children.

Any thoughts?

Happy almost new year!

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The book Grit by Angela Duckworth, we just recommended to me last week. I’m currently reading Spark by Dr Ratey and am very interested in reading Grit next. My son is 7 and was recently diagnosed with ADHD and there’s so much incredible information out there that can be useful to help them as they’re still growing!

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Onthemove1971 in reply to Parentingwithadhd

Thanks, I have added this book to my list. I know our son has grit and hope that will help him in the future. He has endured a lot for his young age and has remained positive and has the desire to successed.

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il1515

My son's school teaches or uses growth mindset on kids. It's a series of positive thinking. I feel like the parents/teachers need to be able to know this positive talking/thinking skill in order to effectively help the child. My son gets frustrated when he can't do certain things, the teacher will say "You have not master it yet, but you will one day, just keep trying" etc...Then my son will still be like "No, I am just stupid and don't know it!" Since I myself is not train in this skills, I don't know how to respond when my son insist he can't do it and doesn't want to try. I ran out of patience and feeling frustrated myself.

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Sabrousal

My son is blessed to go to a summer camp....and this is part of the director Jeff Bell's message...Grit is the first cousin to confidence. Grit can’t be bought, borrowed or faked. Grit comes from consistently showing up for life every day. It comes from consistently stretching your comfort zone …and when you combine grit with confidence you get a “hardy soul."It speaks about the kind of wonderful place it is but also of what we as communities, leaders, adults, parents and educators should be commonly striving to to teach. Kids need cheerleaders!

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Klmamma

There is a project based magnet school in our city that I may look into as well. I think the project/goal based method may help as well. Maybe they can get into hyperfocus mode and keep the end goal in mind. I'm looking up these books as well.

I think grit and the ability to accept constructive criticism are VITAL for any child, but especially ours. They will fail more and recieve more criticism than most people. We are trying to teach our son to take that criticism, process it, and then make changes as needed. Our CBT therapist uses statements like, "you can't do that, yet" etc and I do find it to be very effective with him. I gush when i hear him use the phrase with his 3 year old brother too.

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Onthemove1971

Thanks everyone. What I really enjoyed about this concept is that this women discussed that IQ didn't matter that success was based on having Grit. Here is the TED talk, enjoy!

I watched this TED Talk and thought you would find it interesting.

Angela Lee Duckworth: Grit: The power of passion and perseverance

go.ted.com/CyHY

Happy New Year!

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MeadowLane5 in reply to Onthemove1971

Happy New Year!Thank you for posting this Ted talk- just what I needed today. Currently searching for a middle school for my daughter and it has left me overwhelmed, exhausted and worried about her future. She’s bright but scores poorly on tests. I needed to be reminded that her future will not only depend on these scores but her mindset and actions. Thank you

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Onthemove1971 in reply to MeadowLane5

If she has a 504 plan you could ask for a retake on tests when needed. Especially firing COVID when fo us during lectures is challange. Our son is the same way, he will attend the lecture ( online) study with us and show knowledge the. Fail the test. High school teachers often allow for retakes. But it's so frustrating!

Good luck in finding the right middle school. It's not as important as high school. If you can find high school with a block j schedule, only 4 classes it helps a lot.

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Hi! She does have an iep and currently her teachers are doing a good job with her modifications and workload. My worry is for the next school. Our zoned school is large and overcrowded. They seem to focus on their gifted programs and I worry it’s not best placement. Plus, I think she might be dyslexic and we haven’t addressed that on the iep. Currently researching how best to accommodate her in an Ict setting.

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Onthemove1971 in reply to MeadowLane5

Well.. a few things you could ask for a "study" skills class instead of an elective class. This would get her extra help on her work. You could also see if there are any teachers that teach 2 classes ( usually this is english and math). If she has an IEP she could benefit from a learning specialist helping her during the study skills class. She will also need things like books on tape and assignments read a loud and laptop for note taking. Hope someone at the new school can help you. Make sure you are deal with a special education teacher not just a general teacher.

I order for her to survive she will need grit.

Hope this helps, we just went from middle school to high school, we what a difference. All grades count toward college in high school.

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MeadowLane5

Thank you for your suggestions and feedback.Our eldest with iep headed to high school in the fall.

Hoping for the best for all our kids!

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