I am new to this group

[Blessedmamaof3]

Hello, I am new to this group. I have three children with ADHD and also my husband. I am hoping that this group will help me as they only member in my household be able to help them better in the day to day. I also hope that it will help me in not feeling like I am the only one going through this and feel so alone. As the only member in my house household that does not have ADHD I have a hard time with dealing with things and often feel very rejected and hurt and I look for ways to ease this. Thank you for anyways anyone can help me grow.

[Super_MomATL]

Hi, Blessedmama. I'm relatively new to this group, too, and I hope you'll get as much out of it as I have. Everyone here is so welcoming and advice is offered without judgment, which I so appreciate. You're definitely NOT alone.

I can only imagine how tough it must be sometimes to manage a household where you're the only non-ADHD person in the home, but it also is a real testament to how strong and loving you must be. Your family is really lucky to have you. Hang in there--we're all in this together!

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Super_MomATL]

Thank you so much for your kind words. As the only non-ADHD person in my home I feel very alone and rejected and it is hard to handle at times. Nobody wants to feel like their family doesn't want them so I have been reading allot of books and different sites to figure out how they feel and what I can do to help them. I am very happy to know that I am not in this alone and there are other people that have some of the same feelings I do.

[Janice_H]

Good morning Blessedmama, welcome to this wonderful group of supportive friends. We all are going through similar struggles. You are not alone!

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Janice_H]

Thank you, It is so nice to know I am not alone anymore and I have a safe place to talk about my struggles with day to day life with a family with ADHD.

[4lizzylou]

Hi my name is liz and i live at the coast in california and both my boys and husband has adhd and boys are on medication but my husband is not . my boys are 13 and 21. I would love to be friends and help you my facebook page is lizzylou mcdermott linzmeier

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to 4lizzylou]

Thank you, I will look you up on Facebook. My children are 8,15,and 16 the older two are on medication the younger one is not right now but have an appointment to do so coming up. My husband is not on medication for his. Then you also through our dogs in the mix of all this our house is a roller coaster ride every day for me.

[sylah]

Good to have you here (although under current circumstances). If it’s alright for me to jump in, I have two suggestions for now - the easier one, if you haven’t already, is to read Driven to Distraction by Hallowell, there is also an audio version. The harder one, is to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. A short morning walk, meditation, etc. Rooting for you!

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to sylah]

Thank you, I welcome anything that is not rude or judgmental. Everyone here has their struggles here so the more help someone can give the better! I haven't read that book I'll have to look for it I love to read. I take time for myself when the children are in school and my husband is in bed since he works third shift. I am trying to find more time to focus on doing things for myself.

[Paperplane]

Welcome! I'm new to this group myself, but have gotten some great feedback. My husband and son are both ADHD, and I'm not. I never felt like I truly understood the diagnosis at all, until someone on this page posted a great video for me the other day that really turned a lightbulb on in my head. It's long and from 2012, but all the research is still solid. Maybe it'll help you in the same way it helped me? Either way, you're definitely not alone.

youtu.be/YSfCdBBqNXY(Not working as expected?)

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Paperplane]

Thank you, I will watch it Monday when the kids are in school. I am open to anything that can help me better understand how they function vs how I do. I am learning just by the few days that I have been on here that I am no longer alone.

[anirush]

It is so hard when you feel like you are dealing with instability all around you. Sometimes it can be overwhelming.

Lots of good advice on here and also just plain venting.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to anirush]

Thank you, and before finding this group I had no place to go to talk to anyone because nobody around me understood what I was dealing with.

[Hidden]

I feel your pain. Some parents told their child to stay away from my child and this has caused whispers and gossip among other parents and now my child is ostracized from groups during lunch and recess. It breaks my heart and I want to give the parents who started the gossip a scolding. I want to shame them and guilt them for hurting my child. I can only hope that one day they will feel my pain.

We need to stick together, others have not a clue...!

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to Hidden]

I am so sorry for your child and your pain in this, everyone says that kids can be so cruel but what allot of people don't see is that most of these kids pick it up from the parents. I hate when things like this happen. Where I live we have a Camp it is called Camp Big Sky my family and I volunteer there it is for anyone with a disability and their friends and family to use free to them, we love that it is a place where everyone feels like they are a somebody and nobody is left out I am so grateful that we are able to be apart of making others feel great! I hope things get better for you and your child as a mom it is hard to see your child go through pain like this and not be able to help it. hugs to you because I know it is not easy.

[anirush in reply to Blessedmamaof3]

I wish we had something like that where we live. It sounds wonderful.

[Blessedmamaof3 in reply to anirush]

I think there should be something like it everywhere.