Hello, all. Thank you in advance for reading this and for any feedback you may have.
My teen is not allowed video games during the school week, and I take his phone at 8pm on school nights and 9pm on weekends. However, his electronic device use is the number one issue we fight about. After I shut down the x-box, he's on his phone playing games, using social media, and binge watching videos and movies. It's all he wants to do. It's a battle after school with the phone and a battle on the weekend. I have an app on his phone that will freeze all but text and phone...use it when necessary and I am worn down by the "all my friends have their phones with them at all times" mombo jumbo. I try to arrange social gatherings and keep him busy on the weekend but he always wants to stay home--it's always an argument. I've dangled hefty carrots as incentives to get him to spend his time more responsibly but nothing works. I don't want to have to take all of it away, I am struggling with hard and fast rules.
I am looking for advice on rules you may implement or rewards or how you manage time on their devices. His "smart" phone and video games are making him not so smart, antisocial, and it's plain unhealthy.