Hello, I am new to this group. Looking for assistance on parenting a 9 yr old boy with adhd. My son has shown concerns since 2 years old. Very active and dangerous. Child development he would fight the teacher and kids in a very violent way. Slap them with lunch trays and punch the teachers in the stomach. I thought changing schools and environments would change things. We moved to Ohio with my father and things were the same. Came back to South Carolina and has. been dealing with IEPs, counseling, medications and behavior every since 2015 when he was finally diagnosed with ADHD. The only thing is I don't know how to deal with it. If I try to be understanding, people say I'm being too soft. If I try to discipline him for his actions, I'm being too hard. I have gotten to a point of confusion. Can someone help me on how to cope with the violent behavior and frustration?