Well Iām back to square one again. He was kicked out of school again and now we have to have another hearing Thursday š”
My son threw a double A battery down the hall and principal of HS walked around corner and it grazed him in leg so they suspended him and now the principal is pressing charges
May u get better situation in this matter .
What the heck! Dang, that sucks. So sorry...hugs. New school?
It seems like the meds your son is taking are not working.
I just came across about DNA testing for depression, shown in the Dr. Oz show. I researched the company and they also have testing for ADHD. It helps to choose the right med for his genetic make up and ease to metabolized. I think the $330 is worth a try. The company is called genesight.
Keep advocating for your son
Just be careful we did this with our son and it should have shown the meds heās on. It didnāt. It was like he wasn't on any meds at all. The pediatrician said this is new and not very reliable. It also goes by your income, how much they charge.
Hmm...interesting. Thanks for the info.
On another note, If the meds your son is on right now are not working, have you seen or thought about seeing a psychiatrist? They are more reliable in terms of mental health and what medication combination your son will do better.
Yes we see a counselor in and also out of school and also a psychiatrist. Weāve seen them for about 3 years.
wow! Have you heard of Amen clinics and the test they do?
If the school knows about him, they should deal with him differently. Give lots of love to your son. Try to cool him down. A soft ball or music helps them. Try find what your son likes. Spend some quality time with him to understand what he going through at school. The emotional concern bothers them more than studies. They need friends at school and teacher's attention to be happy at school. That will boost calmness as well . Our kids are very special and more than 100 Percent. We have to trust them. Most of the famous people in the world have troubled childhood. He will get better school with understanding teacher. š
Oh no I am so sorry! I can tell you now he did it for a reason.
Did you ask him why he threw the battery? Find out what the antecedent is!
No child wakes up and says today I want to be bad! Every child wants to be liked and be good!
Figure out what triggered him and talk about his triggers in your next IEP meeting. Give this poor boy more support not punishment! I am so sorry
I know how you feel! We have a school that thinks our boy is just being bad too! They have suspended him for 30 days because they say he is a bad boy! It is really causing my son some depression and anxiety to have him labeled like that!
We are hiring an attorney because we canāt send him back to school with the BIP and IEP he has right now. We need an expert to help write a new BIP and IEP! This is what we are fighting for. Our school does not know how to write a good BIP to help his anxiety. They are making it worse!
Good luck keep fighting the fight to find out why your boy does what he does and help him manage him myself and his anziety different next time!
I am so sorry! That seems really extreme. But then, my son was suspended for dancing once. Good luck, I hope you get better plans.
IT sounds to me like bad timing and your son was being a typical teenage boy, it's not like he threw the battery directly at the principle! You should certainly find out if this happened while the hall was empty, somewhat empty or crowded between classes. Poor leadership and lack of emotional intelligence is not your child's fault! ADHD does have impulsivity but in his case, I would say he was just being a boy....who was he with at the time, a group of his friends cause that makes a difference as well.
Just so you know when I google searched this was the first thing that popped up! ...."When a child's behavior is related to their disability, the school is not allowed to expel them. The law says that one way that behavior will be determined to be related to disability is if the school has failed to implement the IEP appropriately in a way that's related to the behavior".
I would do some further research into the matter or call an attorney that specializes in children with disabilities and school laws. Just in case anyone else in the school decides to forget the law in the heat of the moment!
Go to the school website and see if you can find out how to solve a grievance if you don't want to go the law route, or ask the school psychologist what your rights are pertaining to the school's discipline policy and IEP policy.
If the principal wants to take it personally and not use emotional intelligence to handle the situation then its time to go above his head!!
Letters get people on the edge of their seats, especially when it comes from a parent to the superintendent's office. You can also write the board of education or give them a call and ask them what your rights are as a parent with a child who has recorded disabilities. The key to all this is don't get emotional, be extremely objective in all your letters with fact-based information. These letters are not to explain why your child was wrong but to explain how his disability can skew his decision-making. I would even go as far as finding research done by doctors on ADHD students being expelled from school and how it negatively affects the child in the long run. Or find research done on the behavior of boys in high school with ADHD and the effects on their education when schools don't fulfill their needs. Add that to your letters and make sure you Quote the results of the studies.
When a childās misbehavior is caused by her disability. In this case, there would be a process called āmanifestation determination.ā
A manifestation determination is when the IEP team looks at whether a childās disability, which can include learning and attention issues, causes or directly contributes to her misbehavior. In other words, is her behavior a āmanifestation,ā or symptom, of her learning and attention issues? If so, more protections apply.
Yes, the misbehavior was caused by the childās disability: In this case, the school and IEP team must immediately try to figure out when the misbehavior happens and why. This is called a functional behavioral assessment (FBA). Then the team must develop a behavior intervention plan (BIP) to minimize the misbehavior. The BIP must be put into effect immediately. If the student already has a BIP, then the team needs to review and change the plan to address the misbehavior.
No, the behavior wasnāt caused by the childās disability: In this case, the school can treat the student the same as it treats students without an IEP or 504 plan. It may keep her removed from school. However, the school must continue to provide services because of the āchange in placement.ā
The student must also be allowed to return to school unless she was removed because she brought a weapon to school, had illegal drugs at school, or caused serious bodily injury to another person at school. In these cases, the school can continue to keep her out of school for up to 45 school days, but must still provide services.
Check out this great website about your rights and misbehavior
understood.org/en/school-le...
or this site from lawyers who advocate for children with disabilities
wrightslaw.com/advoc/ltrs/e...
Hope this helps, and its time to get that pen and paper out his record could follow him and cause negative bias on his success. You may even look into having him changed to a high school that better serves him, there are plenty scholarships and funding for children who need smaller classes etc. With his actions and behavior this could be something you can ask for in his IEP.
Have you ever consulted ACLU?
No Imjust a mom who had to do a lot of arguing and fighting with my son's school....I've been arguing with teachers and principles since kindergarten and my son is in high school now. I was tired of the subjective and bias opinions of me as a parent and my sons behavior so I researched as if I had to be an IEP advocate...it started just advocating for my son and then more parents started asking me questions as if I was a subject matter expert so I became a PTA president at one point and made my mission to help children with behavior issues in school. We established many great programs for the children like bring dad to breakfast and other programs that helped support parents and their child. On top of the fact we were a military family for 12 years so every three years it was a new school and new set of people to argue with. Charter schools, public schools even magnet schools I had to have an objective fact-based argument so I learned a lot along the way. Also, my son is 15 and just got diagnosed with ADHD, so his diagnosis was Oppositional Defiance Disorder from age 7 till now. Either way along with being a military wife and the frustration of emotional teachers I researched the heck out of my rights, my son's rights and letters, letters, letters!!
Another IEP Meeting Today - Pray For Me
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Help for 15 yr old son with ADHD
Asked to find another school
I want my boy back :(
