Hello. I'm new to the group. My child has been struggling with sensory issues for a long time (clothes and noises are hard for her to deal with). She is also extremely oppositional and picks fights with the family (parents and younger brother). After a few years, we finally found an OT that was able to help her overcome some of the challenges with clothing. We've moved across country to a small town, and we're struggling to find care. My daughter is reverting and once again rejecting her clothing.
My 12 year old started middle school last year and was diagnosed with ADD. She cannot pay attention in class, and her work was late all most all of the time. Her grades are great because I help her study and work on ways to remember to turn in her assignments.
I am at my witt's end. My child needs so much input from me in order to function. I feel like I'm helping a 6 year old rather than a 12 year old. I am so sorry to sound judgmental, but this is our reality right now. She is unable to get dressed and ready for school each day. I ensure that she gets 9-10 hours of sleep per night, but she still cannot function in the morning. I just set up a sleep study evaluation, which will happen in few weeks. Also, I'm puling her out of public school at the end of Q2. She will begin online/home school for Q3/Q4 this year. She may go to part-time school for 2 classes in the morning. But honestly, I'm terrified that she won't be able to get dressed and ready.
She is seeing a cognitive therapist, for the ADD, but I don't feel like it's helping...My child DOES NOT WANT TO TAKE MEDICATION. She said I CANNOT FORCE HER.
I am helping her, but I NEED HELP. I do not know how to care for myself and my other child when I am under so much stress. I found a counslor for myself, but she knows nothing about ADHD. I ask my child's counselor for resources to help parents, and she cannot find a contact information for a support group in my area. I am so afraid that I'm going to make my family's situation worse, because I HAVE ZERO SUPPORT... I do not know what I'm doing. All of the solutions that I come up with fail. I cannot even get my kid dressed and out the door for school without it becoming a major crisis... I just do not know how to deal with this anymore. I'm always in problem solving mode for my older child and my younger child is taking a back burner. My husband helps get our kids ready, but it literally take two adults over 2 hours in the morning to get our children to school on time. We both work full time... This just does not seem sustainable.
Sorry for this long post, but things with our daughter are not getting better as she gets older. My husband used to take her to the principals office when she was in elementary school. That's the only way she would put on shoes and socks and go to class.... Things got better for a year or so, now they're starting to deteriorate again.