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My husband and I are parents of a wonderful 9 year old son who was diagnosed with A.D.H.D., hyperactivity and impulsiveness at nearly 6 years old. I was worried that he would have stress because he was moving from a small pre-school to full day kindergarten at another school. It turns out the stress was only on me. My son moved into kindergarten without a blink of an eye. I was the one with separation anxiety. Ever since he got on his feet at 14 months old, he ran, he was a toe-walker and had occupational therapy for that (tight heel cords). With concerns from his kindergarten teachers, it was suggested we talk to his pediatrician about having him tested to see what is was that drove our boy like a clock work soldier; always moving, can't sit still, body moving before his brain told him to, grabbing things, emotional, angry, hyper focused. So, we had him evaluated and the team that met with him came back with the mixed soup of what I began this note with. He has I.E.P.'s for everything from holding a pen to social interaction with adults, small group kids, large group and so on. He is in the 3rd grade and we just had his first parent/teacher conference. His homeroom teacher and a special needs teacher sat in with an O.T. teacher. We met for 30 minutes and at the end, the teachers never spoke a word of his academics, the special needs teacher said, 'well, he's doing okay", meaning he could be doing so much better, but not once was his progress mentioned. She did however go on about his hyper focusing, his inability to let things go, picking fights with a known bully who gives him trouble everyday about his posture, his hair, his walking and so on. There is so much more, but not enough room to share. I do not feel good about the meeting. Was I missing something or should the teachers have stuck with academics like I'm used to discussing? Our son is having his 3 year reevaluation this Tuesday at a different facility and we are excited to see what new opportunities will be made available to our beautiful boy. I do all of his homework with him, I know he's getting it, he retains everything he's taught and with some encouragement and repetitive direction, he does great with math and English. What are they not seeing that I don't?

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I have found you need to learn to direct discussion when you're in an IEP meeting. So you have to be the one to bring up let's talk about his grades, is he at grade level, what do we need to work on them to get him doing well etc.

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FrankiesMom2008 in reply to anirush

Thank you for saying so. The Special needs teacher just dominated tge whole thing with non-academic issues. After a while, i tuned her out and i just wanted to go home. I wrote a letter of concern to the head of the department, a nice one without sounding negative. I'd request a new meeting, but my son's homeroom teacher was only a sub and his regular teacher just came back from maternity leave. She has to get to know her class as a newbie now. I suppose we wait for now until the next meeting in the spring.

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