One of those days...

[Motherofboys89]

Each day ranges from good to very bad. Today was one of those days where things went downhill fast. Joshua is currently taking a nap. He got very upset very fast today when I was trying to explain math homework and he lost full concentration and became angry to the point he left the table and threw a big anger tantrum (raising his voice, talking back, repetitively saying words like "MOM,NO, I WONT, I DONT CARE,..ETC". Sometimes I want to cry and do because it just becomes so much to deal with. I DO NOT like to yell at him but it gets to the point I feel like my head is going to explode. He will threaten to knock things over and stomp his feet or do something he is not supposed to do. ALL BECAUSE OF ONE PROBLEM. He lost focus more than usual today. We even had therapy today and I thought we left there great. I even tried calming him by telling him it's ok but he needs to pay attention. just had to vent.

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The most important thing i learned from my daughter's therapy was that the things that happen are not directed AT me. When she yelled, it was because she was frustrated, not at me, but at herself. When he is in a quiet, listening mood, tell him that this will happen: he will not play with his favorite toy until he finishes his homework. His goal needs to be to do the work before he gets to watch a show, or play with that toy. When he starts the tantrum, calmly tell him that you have no problem with a break. Then go about your business. Once he realizes that he has to do his part, he should be better about homework.

[Kaysmom84]

Hugs! I totally get it, had one of those days myself today! Just remember you are a great mom and clearly love your son! Tomorrow is a new day! No advice, just know your not alone!

[Mmagusin]

Don't force it and definitely no yelling back. They need us to be calm. I know it's hard. We're human too! I suggest doing homework during the hours he's at his best. For us it's right after school and with a snack. Make sure eating and medicine is first, then homework. When they yell, it's time to take a break and come back to it when calm. Might be in the morning, might not happen for that assignment. Helping them learn how to cope with frustration and their symptoms is more important than the math assignment right now.

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Don't feel bad sometimes things that will look extremely easy for us is not for them you always have to make sure that he is drinking a lot of water and the temperature in the home is very cool anything hot and sweaty with a dry mount can make things go downhill fast , give him the opportunity to say mom I need a break let him know that in advance because it's even more frustrating when we know the answer but didn't get it right away because that's just how their minds work , mathematics is a lot more difficult for children with ADHD what we may look at to be very simple their brain is wired differently so we just have to be very patient and continue to love them don't feel bad about the hot outbursts he don't mean any of it

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This sounds identical to what I recently experienced with math homework and my 9 year old son. Luckily his school and teachers are very understanding and willing to work with us. The special ed coordinator suggested that the teacher try to allow him to do his homework during the school day while he's still in "school mode" and home temptations aren't a distraction. And I told the teachers that I would not battle with him for 45 minutes just to force him to complete a math worksheet that would have taken him 5 minutes to complete and on days like that we just wouldn't be turning in the homework. I also implemented a strict consequence of losing his 30 minutes of screen time if homework wasn't completed first (though I haven't really had a chance to try this out yet because he's done all his homework at school).