finding things difficult.

[66misty]

most of the time i feel fine, then lots of little things happen all at once and then i feel like i cant cope and feel like nobody will understand or think i'm stupid as most of them when said out loud sound very trivial and to most people a little pathetic to get upset about.

i just wish i could pin point the underlying problem as to why i cant cope with the small things of every day living.

it gets very lonely even though i have a lovely partner, who is worried about me and is finding it hard to understand.

i dont want to be miserible and low anymore, i dont think its fair on my partner or my teenage daughter.

[Jeffju]

It sounds to me as though you are very stressed and anxious at those times and this leads to those irrational thoughts.I know exactly what you mean, if you say them out loud they would seem so stupid. Go and see your GP and see what they have to suggest. They are there to help you and nothing will be lost by going. Get some help now and I wish you all the very best.

[sasays]

Im sorry you're feeling so down Misty, don't feel embrassed when things become too much, at least your aknowledging it which is a positive thing even if you dont know it yet. Have you explained the way you feel to your husband? Is there anything you feel is missing or wrong that you can do anything about? Is he able to support you in any way? Or your daughter?

The small things can build up trust me, and if they are continuos it can feel like your swimming against the tide, it might not be a tidal wave but its still hard work, and can seem never ending.

Perhaps you need someone out of your immediate home circle to talk to, do you have any friends you can open up to? Or anyone that you know, or may suspect, has been through similar feelings?

Wishing you all the best x

[66misty]

I feel so stupid that I can't cope. I have been to doctors and they have given me ad's and has dined me off work for a week. But I feel like a failure. Shouldn't be letting a stupid person at work tip me over the edge.

[avann in reply to 66misty]

Hi,

You are not stupid and you are not a failure. You are a sensible person who is starting to recognise that they are ill.

I know its tempting to think that there is an underlying problem which you can solve but in my experiance there usually isn't.

My advise - take your nice family and go for a long walk somewhere quiet and with fresh air. And listen to your GP.

[sasays]

Hi Misty, hope youre doing ok, the first two weeks on ADs can be a bit odd, whilst they settle in so I hope you've told someone what's going on so they can support you x

[66misty]

I have been doing quite well. I have been having counselling and have been feeling very supported by my partner and work mates. The problems are all still there and a few more besides. But I am working through them one by one. Rather than all at once. So I'm on a good streak at the mo. But I don't know how long that will last. Hopefully a long time.