I can't cope

[Shannonjade]

I have never wrote on here before but I have no one to talk to. I have never felt so alone in my life. My partner of 6 years has left me because he can no longer cope with my mental health issues. We have a child together and now I have to sort everything out by myself. I don't want to get out of bed and I can't stop crying I can't sleep and the only thing keeping me going is my little boy I just can't cope with everything

[kinikia95]

For right now just focus on your baby. That will keep you going, I know that from experience. He sounds weak but... Hopefully he realizes that whether or not he wants to be with you, he needs to keep up his end on the co-parenting and you won't need to sort it all yourself. But if you need to you will. That's what moms do. Give him a minute before you think all is lost. We're here for you.

[Shannonjade in reply to kinikia95]

I'm trying so hard but I really just want to give up

[kinikia95 in reply to Shannonjade]

I know but you can't sweetheart. How old is that baby?

[kinikia95 in reply to kinikia95]

Well, I guess it's not for me to say you can't. If you want to give up, who will take care of your boy? Just work that out and you can give that part of your life up. I'm guessing you don't want that? But I could be wrong. If you need time, you need time.

[Shannonjade in reply to kinikia95]

He's 4

[kinikia95 in reply to Shannonjade]

such a cute age! is there someone he can stay with for a while, if that's what you need?

[kinikia95 in reply to kinikia95]

Sometimes my daughter needs a break from her toddler and I take her for a day or two, it can get hectic. We've all been there.

[Shannonjade in reply to kinikia95]

Nope we live with my parents. I just don't know what to do thank you for taking the time to talk

[kinikia95 in reply to Shannonjade]

oh perfect! I hope you can reach a happy medium with his father. All is not lost yet but it's hard, I know. I'm sorry. Everyone here says don't cry, but I kinda like a good cry? makes me feel good after. That and some Netflix binging with chips I guess that's bad advice but I like it. You just have to stop after the first day.

[sweetiepye]

I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I don't know how strong you are,but you're about to find out. I am 70 and I'm going through a similar thing. It's alright to laugh, it's ridiculous at this time of life to be dealing with this kind of thing, I think my husband is afraid of death and needs to feel alive. That doesn't make it less painful for me though. I'm telling you this because I have my cries and then I use the anger for awhile. Most people probably wouldn't recommend this but you feel strong when your angry and weak when you cry. So use your emotions to keep yourself going . Are your parents supportive? Try to stay pissed off. I loved my kids at 4 , that's when they were the most loving. Count those positives in your life. Give me 3 Pam

[Bluebike100]

Hi, thought I would drop you a line as my relationship ended recently. And it has triggered this latest episode of depression. I also have a little girl that I have to look after and I have to keep going for her sake.

try and stay strong, any time you need to 'chat' get in touch,

Lee

[Shannonjade in reply to Bluebike100]

It's just so hard at times

When he's asking why can't we stay at daddy's and stuff

[Bluebike100 in reply to Shannonjade]

Im not sure how old your little boy is, I have a 4yr old girl who lives with me half the week and she has started saying she misses mummy and daddy, meaning why don't we live together.

All you can do is reassure them that mummy and daddy both love you very much.

Im not sure if your little boy still sees his dad, even if he doesn't it is enough for him to know that he is loved by you and you provide him with the love, stability and security he needs.

I know this is a very difficult time for you, but you have to believe and know that you will get better.

Hopefully your little boy makes you laugh and smile. hold on to this as he needs you and loves you unconditionally no matter what.

Are you getting any support? Not sure if you have been to your doctor to seek advice as well.

As I said any time you need to 'chat' please get in touch

Lee