Getting through depression

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What is a good way how to deal with depression things keep going bad for me over the last couple of months. Since my brother died nothing is going right.

[ScottyDog]

Sorry to hear this Emma. I lost my sister so I know how tough this must be. When my sister died I was 20. I tried to carry on doing normal things but it all felt odd, and everyone was being careful around me, feeling sorry etc. In the end I quit the job I hated and went to uni so I could make a positive change after such a traumatic event. Losing a person so young also made me realize that life is short and precious so it pushed me into doing something I wanted to do. This might not help you (and it might not even be great advice - I'm not saying to make any rash changes without thought) but what I did was something I felt I needed, so you need to find that something for yourself.

My family all take comfort from each other, crying together, going out for her birthdays and sharing memories. That's great for them, but it's not what I need, so I have to bail out of those family events. I felt guilty at first but we all have to grieve in our own ways. Make sure you're not sacrificing your own needs.

Wish I could give you a magic cure for this. It's hard, but keep going

[sweetiepye]

Hello Emma, When a loved one dies you feel so consumed by it, but life keeps happening and you have to deal with it. I don't know if that is good or bad. When my younger brother, Jack , died from lung cancer4 yrs ago I wanted to be left alone to grieve but I soon found out that there is no period for grief it goes on and on. So I am still missing him every day and every once in awhile some small thing will send me into floods of tears and laughter. My brother was very funny and one of the few people I could be myself around. I started keeping a journal for one way conversations with him. I keep in touch with his friends on social media, and I bring him up in conversation when appropriate. He was a special person and I was fortunate he was in my life. Pam