One of my friends recently told me she had depression. We were walking down a busy street so I couldn't really ask more at the time and since then I haven't known how to, or if to, approach the issue. She said it like a serious issue she was trying to pass off as a weak joke because she also doesn't know how to talk about it. She's very intelligent, strong and proud so I'm awkward about approaching it. She also has a good boyfriend, so if she and he can't help, how can I?
A complication is that a separate (former) friend of mine has recently made up a nasty lie about me. The last time I talked to her was a few weeks before I was told she was spreading stories about me. I'd always known she was quite manipulative and liked getting her way, but brushed it aside. I didn't realise how badly she'd react when I didn't do what she wanted. The problem is that friend number one is quite similar to the one lying about me, including the relationship dynamic, and I guess I'm a bit paranoid now.
Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this? I want to help her, but I don't want to get myself hurt in the process
Thanks in advance for any advice