weird detached feeling

[KatieRichie94]

Sometimes I feel like I'm ignored and no one hears me out. I have people who seriously care about me a lot. I have a lot of positive uplifting people in my life, including a wonderful boyfriend. I feel like I'm friendless though..

[Stilltrying_]

I can relate to this and I think it probably comes from having too high expectations of people. Very often people are wrapped up in their own worlds; it may be you are unwittingly a bit "needy" and people in general don't like this I have found. It may go back to your past, although I note you are very young anyway. Maybe think about some counselling if you haven't done so already to help you to find some more peace of mind about yourself and some resilience.

Gemma X

[BettyA in reply to Stilltrying_]

WOW, Gemma! Have you been eavesdropping in on sessions with my therapist!!?? In my case, the occasional (too often in fact) feelings of abandonment or loneliness I feel DOES go back to my past... and I have learned that I tended to 'transfer' the lack of love and especially of any kind of 'approval' from my mother... onto my daughter... For many years I just 'ignored' it and thought all people do is 'blame their childhood' and after all, nobody's life has been perfect.... However, there ARE some exceptional cases, that IF you don't get them straightened out psychologically, will eventually catch up to you... especially after a traumatic event. I thought I was being so 'spiritually evolved' by just Letting It All Go... but, even though I am now in my 70's, it DID really catch up to me... It took my therapist to help me see how the apartment fire caused PSTD because I basically handled IT the same way: "Well, let's just be spiritually evolved and Let It All Go".... and your emotions WILL eventually find a way to 'come out' in the form of anxiety and depression if they are not expressed with Inner Honesty... Now that I can 'see' this, I have started to forgive and ACCEPT MYSELF for not being more 'perfect' ... I am able to really and truly "start to let it go" in the way that I can HANDLE it now.... but the MEMORIES will always remain. Sorry, Katie, to take up so much space on your post...but maybe somehow, in some way, this might help you, too. Yes, a therapist IS a great idea. Its just that sometimes what you say reminds me of me...in that you really make a huge effort to always see the good and bright side.... and that is "OK" as long as you find it totally acceptable to ALSO see and express what does NOT seem fair or right...That is ok, too. We lie to ourselves SO much more than we EVER Do to anyone else. Sending you a hug!

[Olderal]

Feeling friendless is a symptom of how depression and anxiety can warp and distort your thinking. I'm sure you have friends and it sounds as if you're lucky with the people around you.

You may not be able to stop the negative thoughts ,its part of the illness, but you can tell yourself that you're only feeling this because of your problems. WE are thinking creatures and while our emotions have a strong effect we should be able to ignore these with even stronger logical thinking. While the emotional side of your mind might be thinking wrongly you have no friends listen to the logical side that tells you thats just my illness talking and not true.

Olderal