Feeling apprehensive

[Angelmarrow141]

Starting work again temporary on Minday after being off for 3 months due to bullying and harressment grievance I put in, I'm getting moved but this job will be temporary within health trust then what ... They investigate it and then I don't know, does anyone else struggle with jobs? , I think it's my age I hope I will be ok

[Hidden]

If you have been bullied You will be very cynical.

When you attend your temporary position, you never know if it will lead to something that will last so be happy and helpful, Never suffer fools gladly, you are there to work.

Try not to be oversensitive and try and understand the dynamics of the Office that may help you know the fools and bullies. Make as few errors as possible and ask questions, it is not a fault, just sensible. Enjoy office interaction as long as your work does not suffer. Also do not allow anyone to treat you as the office fool, be firm and understanding

I think above may help, remember some office workers are like rats in a bucket and many bosses like that as it distracts unhappy workers by divide and rule.

Good Luck, thank goodness I am a Pensioner Lol

BOB

[Olderal]

I'm sure you will be OK but a little apprehension at going back is only natural. Bob has given you some good advice in his reply. Hopefully you will be working in a nicer atmosphere although you should brace yourself to be strong as some of the more ignorant may make reference to your past experience there.

Don't be paranoid, its possible some of your co workers will be tempted to refer to the past but it is quite likely this will be meant to be humourous and meant to relax you and make you feel at home. Very few people are malicious and most will be glad you've returned to work and if there is any leg pulling the odds are it will be kindly meant. Whether it is or not, keep your sense of humour and take it that way.

Don't sweat for perfection in the first few weeks ,just do your job as well as you can and use those first weeks to settle in.

Olderal

[Angelmarrow141 in reply to Olderal]

Thanks for the advice I'm glad it's only temporary though so I can leave if I'm unwell again sorry I should be more positive but it's a safety net, bearing in mind I may come across the bullies or even speak to them on the phone, they have to be interviewed about my allegations, then thr people I already know at this job may tell them I m working at head office, it's one of those things

[Angelmarrow141 in reply to Olderal]

Thanks for the reply o don't know these knew people in going to be working with I ve met them all already, I have the union support who will be looking into my grievance as well during my time in this role, I can't go back to what I was doing, I m still in meds and counselling, I just feel like running away sometimes and starting a fresh but I will only be taking my problems with me, I must be strong and I trust I have the support of this site as I find it very useful and helpful

[Olderal in reply to Angelmarrow141]

I do hope Monday goes well for you and you will certainly have our support. You're right not to run but to face up to the problems at work. I do feel that with a partner who is not helping you should discuss things more with your family.You could make it clear that you don't want them to intervene but just their advice on handling any work problems that might crop up on your return to work.

With an abusive partner and work problems you need someone to make you feel less alone, and your family are the most likely to give you that warmth. You're right that you need to be strong but we all need to feel that someone is on our side and I'm sure you'll get that support from your family.

Let us know how it goes ,whether good or bad and we'll try and weigh in with some extra support. Put your Psychotherapist fully in the picture as well.as they should be able to give advice on handling your partner and any work problems . Wishing you luck.

Olderal

[Hidden]

Hi I emphasise as I have been in your situation before. I wouldn't look too far into the future and just concentrate on the job you will be doing. At least you will be away from the bully won't you?

To be honest I can't see them dismissing you even if you don't succeed with the grievance procedure. This is not a sackable offence. All it probably means is they will decide whether or not to give you a written warning about your sick leave. If they uphold the grievance you shouldn't get a warning, but if not you might. This is not the end of the world but it might mean your attendance being more closely monitored.

Good luck on Monday and fingers crossed for you. xx

[Phoenix2173]

You are not alone, the problem with work is there are people who think it makes them look big if they can make others feel small. They take great pleasure in torturing those who wont fight back. I have experienced this and was off work for many weeks I was so down I came close to doing something stupid. Maybe the change of position will help and will give you pause to think what you really want to do with your life even if that means a change of direction. If you have a union talk to them because bulling and harassment in the public sector not allowed so they have a duty of care to ensure that it doesn't happen again. I can understand why are you apprehensive as all you can see is it happening again. I hope that it doesn't and your employer has taken action against the person or people who did this to you.

Just remember you are not alone it happens more than people care to admit.

Russell

[babyhyer]

I was bullied at work once because they found out about my mental illness. I went to HR and things improved but when I went out on pregnancy leave I was fired because my FMLA had ran out from when I took off time from the stress of the bullying. I went to a lawyer and got a very small settlement but I should have gotten way more because they didn't hold a job for me nor rehire me in another position that I was qualified for. As a matter of fact they made me sign a paper saying that as part of the settlement I could never work for them nor any of their parent/sister companies ever again. I had worked there for 3 years and it was the best job I ever had until they found out I had mental illness. They played pranks on me and even my closest friends there thought it was the highlight of the night sometimes. I know how you feel and keep your head up because this temporary situation may become permanent and may be a better deal for you.