I don't know what's wrong with me.

[aaa28mg]

I'm 19, I don't know what's happening to me since the past few months. I feel so sad, lonely and emotional. This has never happened to me before. I suffer from PCOS (well the tests haven't diagnosed it but my symptoms clearly show that I suffer from it). Well I've been feeling low, I don't feel content with myself, like when I look in the mirror I see all the fat, the facial hair etc. I'm a very cheerful person, well I used to be... but sometimes I just begin crying all of a sudden. I don't find interest in half the activities I used to enjoy, I can barely concentrate on things, I feel like a failure, I can't even sleep properly most of the time, or I end up over-sleeping. I have never slept later than 10am... But since the past few months I have to literally drag myself out of bed at that time & many times I don't fall asleep early. I be awake until 1-2am. I don't even feel like keeping in contact with my friends and family anymore either.

[Kjb1980]

Ah I'm sorry to hear that your feeling so low but your not alone ! Has anything changed a few months ago when you noticed you first started feeling like this ? Hormones have always played a huge part in my life even now at 35 I'm trying to get the balance ! It would be worth seeing your GP and explain how your feel as you might be depressed , talking to your mum/dad if you feel you can ? Everything can get sorted and the first step which you've done is identifying that it's not "you".

Don't suffer there's lots of help and us lot on here :)))

Take care and let us know how your getting on xx

[hgrimmer]

Hello.

I have been there and was lucky to come out of it - well sort of. I have been on meds for 8 years now and would not like to be without it. It floats me and that's what matters. You need to find that one person in your life that can support you - physically with a hug when you need it and also someone to tell you that you are still loved and beautiful in their eyes. There will be someone out there if you really think hard. Never give up........talk to your doctor - please!!!!!

Don't be alone.......talk, even to us here. We have all been there so we can give you the verbal hugs you desperately need. You must seek that help too.

let me know how you get on if you'd like to.

Brave hugs and kind thoughts,

Hx

[loggerslot]

Hi there,

I personally find that youngsters around your age, 16 to 20 are most susceptible to behavioural changes due to changes in the body so likely to tip scales either way, good or bad, and it's at times like these you ideally find good company and good guidance.

firstly, never try to self diagnose an issue or illness, always let the health professionals diagnose it. If you feel there is an issue and you're not happy with the results then always consult your GP and tell them that you are not convinced. If you keep self diagnosing then that will add to your stress and make you worry more.

Also it's a good idea to speak to your parents about this and tell them what you are going through. you mean the world to them and i'm sure they will want to help you feel better.

When you're not happy with something the action is to do something about it. coming here is that action you taken and its a positive one. It sounds easy and take it from me, someone who has come out from severe depression, it's not that easy than said. so lets use this as a means of helping you practise to slowly build your interest and take a step by step approach to getting you feeling better. it's the only natural way that will work but it requires determination and building your will power to do so. medicine can help but medication is only a temporary fix so i would not rely heavily on such medication like anti depressants. whilst you take this sort of medication you need to help yourself by self learning about your weaknesses and lessen their effects, doctors can't do this and nor the therapists, you need to take action and implement their advice. There are things that worry you and you use that time to address them.

Life is all about maintaining a balanced attitude, you maintain a social life and yet you need time to yourself and with family. your body needs a balance too of good food/exercise. for example, staying in touch on facebook is part of socialising and arranging a meet up in town over coffee, etc but you don't want to go over top on facebook and end up making a mistake, which might result in a backlash or embarrassment. That will only set a person back and withdraw from it all and feel that all this positivity that people say, is not working. so that's an example of balancing your socialising with time to yourself.

With regards to irregular sleep that will happen. I found 3 ways to help with sleep. there are things that are troubling your mind. practice this, that if you know that one thing you are worrying about is not going to change tomorrow or the day after then there is no point in keep worrying about it so let it go. when the time comes it will be better dealt with. do this for every issue that worries you and empty your mind of these issues. once you've done that and feel your mind is free, try drinking warm water with few drops of lemon juice before going to bed, that will help slowly regulate your sleeping pattern and use a couple of drops of lavender oil on either sides of your pillow and that will help with nodding off. please keep this up. its all natural and no sides effects unless you know you are allergic to citrus fruits.

pushing away family and friends is a normal trait for someone who is feeling low but you should slowly encourage yourself to do the opposite to meet up and stay in touch. You say there is facial hair and you see fat so have you spoke to your mum about this? maybe asking your mum to come along to the beautician might help and they can advise what they can do and use that to pamper yourself and feel good. exercise and healthy eating is key to getting your body's balance right. when your body is deficient in vitamins and minerals imbalances occur and can result in behavioural changes or mood swings so its important to make a switch to eating but eating healthily and exercising doesn't have to cost the earth. you can jog for free, skipping and lots of things you don't need to pay monthly for, find a jogging friend and map a route and gradually increase the distance. keep this up and the gradual change you see over time will make you feel better. please understand that your mind is full of various mental barriers that will encourage you to resist but again determination is key to knocking them down and keeping that going. if i can do it so can you

My mum suffered from a physical disability called Ectrodactyly. she had deformed hands and feet. she hated herself and didn't want to get married fearing that someone will not treat her nicely and that society will not see her as "normal". but you know what? some people have treated her as not "normal" but she turned out to be the most confident person in the entire extended family, she gave will power and love and care to those who needed it and not only that she was a qualified dressmaker. things she could make put some people in their place and she never let the fact that her physical disability judge the way she thought of herself. she was proud of herself and happy and knew how to enjoy life and "so can you".

Tackle each issue a step at a time even if it takes a few months or a year but steady does it and see how you get on.

if you want to talk more you know we are all here. Sorry for the long post