My wife thinks I'm doing all sorts of things behind her back and conspiring against her, what can I do ? We constantly argue about this and now she wants to leave and says she will never believe me and that I am one big liar and that I've been and am still doing things to " take the piss out of her"
She thinks that I'm controlling what she can do on the Internet and her phone and that I'm stealing everything of hers on her PC, that I'm doing all sorts of things in the house, making holes in things etc, hiding things, leaving things about or layed about that have some hidden meaning, even that they are pointing in a certain direction for some reason. When I tell her that I wouldn't do any of these things to her her the way everything seems to be hurting her, she point blank doesn't believe me, calls me a big liar, tells me she absolutely hates me more than anything. I could keep going on about all the things she says I'm doing against her but my question or request for help would go on too long. We've been married for just over 27 years and been together for over 32 years altogether, I have never been unfaithful and although I know I'm not perfect have always tried to be a good husband. We have 2 children who are in their 20's who are both aware of the situation and wish it would all get sorted out. I do too, but I've tried everything ( I think ) possible to get her to believe that it isn't me at all and tell her that I think she is depressed and needs to talk to someone about what she is accusing me of, it would have to be someone who doesn't know me either, as she thinks I'm trying to get everybody against her.
She means everything to me and it's breaking my heart to see what is happening to her and to think that she thinks I could do anything like this to hurt her.
Some 12 or 13 years ago I nearly lost her when she suffered a massive heart attack and recently lost her mother who suffered with Alzheimer's for 15 years who she cared for every day. I tell her that I think all these things have been a lot for her to contend with and she should see the doctor to get help. She takes this all the wrong way and thinks I am saying she has got a mental problem.
Can someone please help.