Miss

[Doreen36]

Hello all I don't seem to fit in this grop u doint unersdand me or want I'm saying.in my last meg I send do y do a texs mege for this grop.and then I send sorry for being a pain

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Hey Doreen, I don't understand the post

[gillym]

If you spell the words correctly maybe people will understand?

[Photogeek in reply to gillym]

Hi Gill I think that unfair to be critical of Doreen's spelling, maybe

English is not her first language, and I can usually make out what she means.

I would hate to think that you have to be too precise here, we have

To be welcoming to all and be kind as well.

Hannah

[gillym in reply to Photogeek]

I wasn't being nasty. It looked like abbreviations to me. Sometimes people do this in texts. That is what I was thinking.

[Photogeek in reply to gillym]

Ok Gill , I understand. Lol.

Hannah x

[Photogeek in reply to gillym]

Hi Gill I do t want to argue or fight with you, and yes I should

Not have called you uncaring, you just sound very angry. I can

See what you mean about Doreen's Post but I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.

None of us are perfect here and I don't think I meant to hurt

You, you seem to have less patience as you say yourself,

But we are all different. So let not argue as there is nothing

To be gained from that

Hannah

[gillym in reply to Photogeek]

My first thoughts when I saw the post was "I really cant make out this abbreviation. I dislike it on my phone too. It did not occur to me that this lady might not speak English well. For which I am sorry. It was not my intention to offend, but I can see how others might have thought I was being rude.

[Photogeek in reply to gillym]

Thanks for that Gill, don't worry about it and we will

All let any bad feelings go. I hate conflict or arguements myself, as I had enough already in

My life.

Gill how are you? How are you finding the site so far?

It's very quiet at the moment , I better go now and

Make up my bed, as I earlier threw duvet and sheets

In wash, so now I have to bite the bullet and make the bed. I never thought I would find such little things duffucult, although once I get started I'm fine.

Thanks for reply.

Hannah x

[Doreen36 in reply to Photogeek]

Than you photo geek. English is my only language and I have tubble spelling.ok I'm just feel up with my hubby

[Photogeek in reply to Doreen36]

Hi Doreen , don't worry about your spelling. Now am I right

In thinking your fed up with your husband? I think when we

Are Depressed we can feel misunderstood and that no one

Cares about us, at least here we do try and care about each

Other. Maybe your husband feels he doesn't know how

To help.

Take care of yourself and let us know how your doing.

Hannah

[Doreen36 in reply to Photogeek]

Thank you my hubby is don't understand me at all he ax made me cry and tres me like a child. So I have decided to leave him. I don't know when but hopefully soon.

[deejames in reply to gillym]

Hannah is absolutely right Gillym. We are not here to criticize the way anyone writes their posts. Please Doreen ignore comments like that and do your best to help us understand. I think you got muddled Doreen when someone suggested you were in pain and you thought they meant were a pain.

We are listening and want to help if we can

[Doreen36 in reply to deejames]

Thank you I did sorry if I am a pain but I kown I'm not a pain but I do think that I am I am very scared of my hubby.

[Photogeek in reply to Doreen36]

Hi Doreen now when you say you are scared of your husband, is it that your afraid of him physically ? Or just afraid to tell him.you want to leave.

There are Womens refuges who could help you to leave. But

Don't do anything that will put you in any danger. Sometimes

When people try and leave a husband or wife, that partner

Can get very angry, so Doreen get help and be careful .

Do you have any family that could help you out right now?

That would be great .

Hannahx

[gillym in reply to Doreen36]

I am sorry Doreen if my post offended you. It was not intended to offend. I was thinking if you made it clearer maybe we could understand, but I get the gist of your feelings. I am sorry that you are afraid of your husband. That must be very frightening.

[Photogeek]

Hi Doreen what's wrong? I think you don't understand how the Group works.

Usually somebody will post or write their problem, then whoever is online

Will reply if they feel able.

Unfortunately because this is a depression forum, people are not always online,

Therefore it can be quiet , it just means there is no one around. It doesn't

Mean we don't care about you. People answer when they can and no one

Can force someone to answer . Why are you upset? What is the main problem

Right now in your life? Please tell us what's going on.

This Forum is voluntary and we are not professionals but ordinary people

Who are Depressed too, no different than you, but maybe we are more

Patient.

Doreen please do not worry about being a pain, you are suffering , that's all,

Just share what's going on in your life. I don't understand the bit about Text

Message !!

Hannah

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Hi Doreen I found your message very hard to read because of spelling as well but I take Hannah's point about English perhaps not being your first language.

Anyway now you are here how can we help you? Do you feel able to give us some more information about yourself? x

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Doreen I just looked back at your previous posts and I find that 3 days ago you posted under Dcollins as follows:

Dcollins 3 days ago 19 Replies

Had derppesson for long time time now will I ever recuer and I suffer from pack tacks. To I take meds for both of them.

This is you as well isn't it? As you can see you had 19 replies to that one so we did our best for you. People usually only have 1 alias on here otherwise it gets a bit confusing.

[DeadHeart]

I would like you to find some people in this group who make you feel like you fit in. I only suffer major depression which I have had most of my life. When I was 18 I had a few panic attacks but they got fixed and I don't ever get them any more. I have taught other people how to squash them down too. Are you usually alone at home or do you live in a large family or group? I am usually alone but I like to find people to chat to online or over a coffee. What do you do? Have you got a pet? What about a friend or partner who knows you really well? It's good to keep trying to tell people about yourself and how you feel. Please chat here more. I can understand what you write because I used to have a lot of students when I was working.

[janey61]

People on here are generally supportive and kind but it can take a while to get to know someone or their problems .as said previously we probably all have depression which is not easy to alway be upbeat or give advice ..however there are some amazing people on here who when they can are very supportive and kind ...keep talking ...you will soon feel better about it ,,,,and sending you some hugs x

[David2]

Yes, don't be deterred from speaking/writing whatever you feel, sometimes also we may not be able to communicate as well as we would like at times of distress. There are always people who will try to understand and support as best they can.

I hope things are ok as with everyone.

[celtic2746]

hi there you will find the people on here helpful but you might want to make your self more clear ! is it just that your husband doesnt understand your condition maybe getting him some information will help matters take care and i wish you all the best david

[deejames]

Doreen. How about you tell us how old you are and if you have kids. Then maybe a bit about why you are scared of your husband .

[gardengnome]

Im trying to figure out what is happening with this post, I've not been on here for a while, have trolls taken over here or have forum members got into the habit of arguments on here, , I expect the moderator is keeping an eye on proceedings

[Doreen36]

Right I am 38 I was working until I fill over and b rock my finger I had an operation on it.but j have be off sick for 2 muths. Because of my deppssen and anxiety.i had a very hard live when was gown up.bu still suffering I am very sorry

[Photogeek in reply to Doreen36]

Hi Doreen thanks for posting, it's hard being off work and being Depressed,

Don't worry about your spelling as I can understand what your writing.

Have you been to your Dr. About how you feel as regards Depression,

He might refer you for counselling , which should help. Keep posting here

And we will do our best for you. Are you on an antidepressant? It could

Be what you need, but talk to your GP and ask for help.

Try and just take it a day at a time. You are very young so have a

Chance to make life changes to your life, so don't lose hope.

Hannah

[Doreen36]

Thanks Hannah yes I'm on dereppsson and somethink for pack tracks. Be on them both for a will Try not to loss hope I'm haveing a metting tomorrow Itch and of my sport workers. Abut how they are going to get out of we're I'm am levering I be moveing into a share house

[Obriens3]

Hi Doreen, I'm sorry you've had some negative responses. I hope I don't offend but have you had problems with reading and writing ? Some adults do and it's nothing to be ashamed of. I got the gist of your message, I hope you have found some support to leave your husband xx

[Doreen36 in reply to Obriens3]

My reading and writing is bad so my spelling

[Obriens3]

That's ok lots of people have trouble with reading and writing. I think some people thought you were taking the piss. Don't worry about it, you got your message across and that's what's important. What's happening now ? X

[David2]

I hope you are ok Doreen and I wish you all the best. I hope things are working out for you today and you can hopefully begin a life that you deserve.

Always try and persevere, try and don't worry about spellings or if you struggle to say what you want and mean, we will get there.

Take care

[Doreen36]

No I'm not ok

[bexx87 in reply to Doreen36]

Hi Doreen, I hope your feeling better.

I hope the social workers managed to find you a shared house so you can get away from your husband, Im hope the surgery on your finger went okay, what job did you do before?? maybe you could do some volunteering work to keep your occupied. I hope your medication is working, if you feel it isn't I suggest going back to your doctor.

If you feel you need someone to talk to, there are numbers you can call like headway (if you have a head related injury), you can call mind (if you suffer depression),you can call the Samaritans or if your getting abuse from your partner (be it verbal or physical) you can call womens aid.

Plus we are always here to talk too.

I hope I have give you some help

Bexx xx

[Doreen36 in reply to bexx87]

Yes thanks I do texs samaritans and they are very good my finger seems to be a lot better. I was working in a private hospital. Been going that for 10 years. I'm moving on the 24.8.15.i still not feel ready to go back,To work but is that being safish

[bexx87 in reply to Doreen36]

no your not being selfish, my anxiety got to me last week so I just up and drove down to Devon as I got a sick leave note from the doctor and told people when I got down there as I know people would have wanted to come with me and I needed me time which no one understood so now im nice and relaxed. If you feel like your not ready then say I think your sending me back too early, only you now your own mind, there are time when I wish people would pick up how im feeling and things like hug me without me request them to.

Im glad your fingers better and you talk to someone

[Gayle77]

Sending u a big hug Miss, ur not alone xx

[Doreen36]

No I'm not a child I'm a young lady 38. But he thinks I'm old

[Doreen36]

I'm really upset went to the doctors this morning. I told her that I don't feel ready to go back to work. She said me off work for a month. I went to see my boss and some other lady. That was with her.she send that my sick. Pay is going to run out.they are going to pay me for this month.