Bad weekend

[Andy88]

Hi everyone had a really bad weekend I took a overdose on Saturday got out of hospital this morning feeling really bad today everyone tip toeing round me really don't no what to do

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Oh dear am sorry to hear that Andy. Are they following you up? If not they should be. x

[Stilltrying_]

I expect you will be feeling very groggy and very alone as well as once that immediate "crisis" is over it can feel very lonely indeed just to be sent back into the community. Sometimes people do tip toe around when they are not sure what to say to you.

The important thing is that you get yourself some help to stop you reaching that point again. If you want to and feel able maybe you could talk to the people who are tiptoeing around about how you have been feeling and why as it may help to share if they are people you trust and feel they will be understanding .

Otherwise do have a look on here and see if any of the ideas and suggestions can help you ; it can be good to share your feelings and also to reach out like you have to people on here; we all do our best to support each other on here. Take care, Gemma

[21esme]

Andy,

I'm so sorry to hear this, are you now at home with your girlfriend and the baby?. As Bev/Cough says are the hospital following this up with you? I would hope you will be referred. I know you saw the GP about 3 weeks ago and got citolpram prescribed. You need to have medical support and to talk to someone about what led to how you are feeling or just about how you are feeling. Your friends and family don't know how to react which is understandable. They love you and don't want to upset you by doing or saying the wrong thing.

Thinking of you,

Sarah x

[Andy88]

The hospital got somebody to talk to me then they discharged me and told me to go see my doctor that was it. The paramedics took my medication so haven't got that now (i didn't overdose on my meds) am goin to call doctors tomorrow my girlfriends blaming her self told her it wasn't her fault am just gonna lock ma self away for the rest of the day think cheers for listening again everyone

[WantToChange in reply to Andy88]

I'm sorry to hear this. Your girlfriend is just worried. I'm sure she understands that you need time on your own to sort yourself out. She can't really blame herself though, she will realise this. If you talk to her and explain why you are this way, that depression is serious, I'm sure she will stop blaming herself.

The important thing is that you don't let that make you feel even more guilty. Depressives tend to blame themselves for everything and feel they are no good for anyone or any thing and push people away. It's sad, it really is. I only wish I could take away this misery from everyone.

[Stilltrying_]

It's a tough old world out there Andy ; there are so few people who are really "bothered" . I have just tried to accept that this is the way it is and also it is one of the reasons (paradoxically) why I "keep on keeping on" . I think "Well they are not bothered anyway and there will be very few people will be really touched by you". I DO care about people in general but even I realise that when I miss a post or I'm feeling bad there are so many people out there who need help; and when they reach out even I can't help them.

I do care about how you are and I understand. Your girlfriend will blame herself and yet at the same time she probably needs/wants you to be strong for her because she feels "needy" herself (and that is more "acceptable" in a female. We are all such a complex mix arn't we of needs and caring? There is more need than caring; that is the problem

Yes I understand you just deciding to shut yourself off now and lock yourself out for the rest of the day.Then you just have to "keep on keeping on" because there is no other choice though I know you did what you did because you feel you need something; there is something you are not coping with. Do just try and get the help you need.

The services do seem cold but I don't think it is that. It is a matter of numbers. They cannot afford to feel deeply about everyone or they would crack up themselves so they just care for their own nearest and dearest.

Hugs to you Andy (If you don't mind me saying that). I hope you manage to work things out and please don't blame yourself for anything. You need help and this is all your way of asking for it and there is nothing wrong with that; just that it seems so hard to get what you need in this day and age.

Gemma X

[Gambit62]

Hope you are feeling a lot better - know it is really difficult to be around people when you find it difficult to deal with your own feelings about something let alone having to deal with all of theirs but really hope that you do manage to get to a place where you can be around people. Important that you don't shut down communications because that's when people's imaginations just start running wild.

Would you consider contacting Relate and may be seeing if they have a counsellor who could run a session that allows you and your girlfriend to talk about what happened in a mediated environment - can make it easier to for you both to feel that you have spoken and been heard?

[Cefn48]

Has anyone offerd u counselling x

[Andy88]

Hi yea am waiting to go on to C.B.T on the 16th of October but after all this has gone on don't know if that will change or not. Am open to all kinds of treatments no harm in trying just have to get back on some kind of track anyone ever being on C.B.T I know people care about me it's just hard to see it when u get that low. My dad came to see me earlier his bit old school around this sort of thing he just told me too sort it out them words that was it cheers dad lol got to laugh other wise ad just get annoyed. I do read every comment and thanks again for listening find it easier to talk on here before I have to do it face to face with people.

[Piggysqueak]

Just want to say hello

I,m so sorry your having such a tough time

It's hard when you realise there is no escape button and once you try you don't really want it either does that make sense

Anyway someone mentioned antidepressant did you know they say it take about 3 weeks to start to make a difference and during this time you can be more likely to try suicide

Anyway talk to your GP and good luck I so glad you have a future

You look after yourself love squeak xxx

[Michelle1974]

Hi, I am quite new to the site and I have just read your post.

The first thing is thank god you are here to tell the tale ,whatever your mind was going through when you did it you probably don't remember. I hope that you find something to help you a little even an online site. Just enough support to get you past your suicide thoughts and then the depression could be dealt with.

Don't do anything towards taking your own life,you are valued and needed you really are and if that beautiful baby you have on your profile picture means anything to you,hold him/her tight and don't let go.

I am michelle and I am happy to chat if ever you need to talk.

Thank you for reading this post

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