Is it just me or is it his severe depression? ?! Should I hold on? If it's depression, should I give him space or push a little bit?

My boyfriend of 2 months went off his medication and went into a downward spiral mood ways. He was distant for a few days..then a little closer then more distant. No affection. No touching. On a Friday (week ago) I stayed over and was awoke by him touching and caressing me. We had a moment of kissing and touching. Saturday morning he said he was feeling good. Wanted me to stay but I had to leave around 1 to get my trip stuff ready. I was out of town Sunday thru Tuesday. We texted...Sunday he said he was having a good day, he was out at a show. Next day he responded only a couple times. Tuesday it took forever for him to respond and only a one word response.

He had Dr appointment on Tuesday night. I asked how it went."could have been better". That's it. He always shares everything but that was it. No contact for 36 hours. Thursday am he had a primary Dr appointment. Got a 3 word response on that appointment. I ask if he wanted to get together Thursday evening. No response. Nothing Friday. Worried since he had been having suicidal thoughts I kept trying to reach him. Finally I get. "I'm fine". Last night I asked him a question and got one sentence out of him. Today...nothing.

I've read other stories of men who have secluded themselves due to depression. I can't help feeling he's just avoiding me...? He was very verbal before. Very affectionate and loving. Always wanted me around, always communicative. Kept me informed. Now...nothing?!

He told me once he might disappear (he used a different word) but that if that ever happened he would keep me informed. I'm just so confused. I could handle it better if I knew...but I'm afraid to push the subject while he's low.

Plus I think he was put on new medication. I would think that would start to make some difference.

Any and all (constructive) ideas/suggestions are welcome. Thanks!

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