Heartbroken after losing cat

Heartbroken after losing cat

I know this probably seems not as important as losing a human loved one, but we had to have our lovely cat put to sleep on Tuesday this week. I have never cried so much in my life - I am heartbroken and can't seem to move past this though I know it's only a few days. He was so beautiful (a British Blue Shorthair) and so unique and characterful. We had him for nearly 15 years which is good for the breed but it's still devastating.

Any words of comfort gratefully received.

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  • Sue my heart goes out to you for losing your beloved pet. I think they are more important than most humans because they are with you all the time and it is heartbreaking isn't it? I had to have my 17 year old moggy put down in January this year because of cancer. I had to put him in his basket and take him to the vets to be killed! I was in floods of tears on the day and for a good while afterwards. No words could comfort me then because everytime I looked in the mirror I saw a cat killer. I was distraught.

    After about 5 days though I started to feel a bit better. The messages I got from friends about how i did the right thing, couldn't let him suffer, and he had a long and happy life etc. could sink in then. I still really miss him and think about him every day though.

    Don't feel silly for mourning your lovely cat please. Trust me, time is a great healer and you will be able to start remembering the good times but it's too soon for that yet.

    I loved all my animals and know that one day I will see them all again. You will too.

    Lots of love and hugs sweetheart. Thinking of you. xxxxx

  • Thanks for that. I am trying to get through an hour at a time! I appreciate the kind thoughts and hugs.

  • Sue I hope this helps a tiny bit.


    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

    Author unknown...

  • Thanks for this - it had me in floods!!

  • Oh Hannah I do love this. Thank you so much for posting it again. x

  • Hi Cough yes it's lovely to have.


  • Photogeek, thanks for this heaven called Rainbow Bridge. It is a long time since I have read anything so beautiful and because we have had and have numerous pets within the family, then I am sure this is bound to be used for comfort at some point. Thank you again.

  • Hi Juney, oh I'm glad that you loved

    It, yes I know I have last a few animals so far

    In life and I always get comfort from it. Juney

    Thanks for taking the time to say " Thanks".


    Hannah x

  • You are very welcome Sue. Lots more hugs coming your way...((((((((((Sue)))))))))) xxx

  • Cough have a look at the Poem I sent Sue, it's lovely for anyone who had lost

    A pet.

    Hope your well and enjoying World Cup.

    Hannah x

  • Hi Sue oh my heart goes out to you. As a cat owner and cat lover, it's heartbreaking. Don't feel you shouldn't be upset, they become part of our lives. Even when they have lived a long

    Happy cat life ,it's so hard to let them go.

    Accept you will be sad and cry and think of all the joy he gave you, I will send you a little

    Poem which will help. Put up a lovely photo of him and light a little candle there and

    Think of all the joy and loving you had.

    I know , my Shazza had to be put asleep two years ago, I was heartbroken too.

    Healing loving hug

    Hannah x

  • I have 3 cats and I absolutely love them, so I know how heartbreaking it must be. A human death may be more painful, but the death of a faithful companion is still painful. I had a Bullmastiff when I was younger and he had to be put down due to tetanus and it was horrible. I dont really know what to say but I hope you are ok.

  • hello sue my heart goes out to you.our pets are every much part of our families and its just as hard when we lose our beloved pets.i cried solid for a week when I lost my beloved Max to cancer (had him put to sleep).was hardest thing ever done.only wish I could have afforded chemo for him but would it have been fair to put him thru that?He is happily playing at the Rainbow Bridge until I can meet with him again.i received many sympathy cards from all my friends (where i used to live)who knew him and that just showed what an effect he had on people and how loved he was by everyone who knew him.i have a little "shrine" for him on my dresser-his ashes.flowers photos of him and my dogs i ahve now and a beautiful poem a friend sent me.and a candle I light on his rehoming anniversary (the day I bought him home as battersea didnt know his real birthday)and every xmas cos it was that time of year I lost him.

  • Hi Anbuma that's a lovely Post, it's lovely to keep a little

    Type of shrine for our beloved pets. I do the same, as they give

    Us such joy.

    Your dog sounded lovely and I am sure you gave him a great home.

    Hannah X

  • Just wanted to say that I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes I think losing a pet is actually more difficult than losing a person because we all project so much of our personality into our pets so we have lost a part of ourselves.

    Don't be hard on yourself and rush to think that you should snap out of it and get over it. These things take time and your job now is to give yourself that time.

    One thing that helped me with the loss of my last cat was a little 'meditation'. Start by calming yourself. Focus on your breath then let your thoughts go to the loss but rather than concentrating on the thoughts focus on the feelings in your body that those thoughts bring - the hotness in the eyes, the tightening in the chest. I found that it was just enough for me to be able to control the tears.

  • Hello really sorry to hear about your loss when you have a pet for along time it can be heartbreaking when they less because they give you such unconditional love give yourself time to grieve and try realise you did the best for your cat by looking after him by feeding him etc(hugs)

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