I'm 32, mum of two children. 3 years ago split up from my husband of 10 years, he left me for someone else. I lost 8 stone in weight, I had a great job. Last year all my weight piled on, I lost my job, my ex had a baby, and just recently I have to move as my landlord wants his house back. Since our split I have been so depressed. Our marriage wasn't great, but I always wanted my children to grow up with two parents. I just hate where my life is. I have no job, I'm so overweight, need to uproot again and find somewhere else to live, I have no energy to do anything, even simple things like housework or getting up in the morning. I feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel, I'm a failure, and I'm not sure how long I can carry on like this. Life feels like its passing me by and I have no idea how to turn things around. I went to the doctors last week and she increased my sertraline to 200mg and put me on the waiting list again to see the counsellor. I want a gastric band but she said I wouldn't get accepted as my motivation is none existent. I'm adopted and I'm desperate to find my birth mum, but don't want to in my current situation. How do I find the energy to turn things around. How long can I carry on like this. Please help.